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> A UN campaign called the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence has a goal to spread awareness as they seek to make a change in the world and make things right. Violence against women and girls (VAWG) has gradually increased over the years as it escalates around the world. This call for action hopes to change that. 

**What is Gender-based Violence (GBV)?**


Gender-based violence is violence that is directed to an individual’s gender identity. This may include “physical, sexual, verbal, emotional, and psychological abuse, threats, coercion, and economic or education deprivation” (Women for Women International.org). 

**What is the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence?**


The 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence is an international campaign that takes place every year starting from the 25th of November (International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women) to 10th of December (International Human Rights Day). This campaign originated from the first Women’s Global Leadership Institute in 1991 and ever since then, the event has been conducted every year by the Center for Women’s Global Leadership (CWLG). “Under the leadership of the UN Secretary-General, Antonio Guterres, the United Nations Secretary-general’s UNiTE by 2030 to End Violence Against Women campaign (UNiTE Campaign)” (UN Women.org). From the year of their launch in 2008, they continue to strive over the years for their goal as they call youths, governments, organizations, the media, private sectors, and the entire UN community to join forces. 

**Background History about the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence:**


Patria, Minerva, and Maria Teresa Mirabal are three sisters who are political activists who frequently spoke up about the hardships when in rule by Trujillo dictatorship in the Dominican Republic. He was known for his brutal and ruthless ways of leading by tolerating no free speech and no free press. On 25 November 1960, the three sisters were killed “and dumped at the bottom of the cliff by Turjillo’s secret police” (International Women’s Development Agency.org). The Mirabal sisters were symbolized as feminist resistance and the 25th of November is known as the International Day for Elimination of Violence against Women in Latin America since 1980 (later in 1999, this declared holiday was noticed by the UN). In June 1991, CWLG declared a new campaign called what we now know as the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence. Ever since then, every year people around the world would raise awareness about “discriminatory attitudes and call for improved laws and services to end violence against women for good” (International Women’s Development Agency.org). 

**Why is it important?**


For over centuries, VAWG has been so normalized in our society until now. Growing up, many young girls around the world were controlled and judged based on the eyes of men and society itself. The purpose for this activism is to give the spotlight or the attention to people that have to go through any type of violence and also to educate others. Forms of violence consist of sexual harassment, abuse, exploitation, drug-fascilitated assault, and more. It creates a public notice to everyone in the world and to help victims that have been silenced and have not been given justice, a chance to share their story. 

**2020 Context:**


In March 11, 2020 the World Health Organization (WHO) declared the COVID-19 outbreak, a global pandemic. Due to this pandemic, people were told to stay home and quarantine themselves to avoid gatherings of big groups. Although for some, it may seem lockdown isn’t as bad. However, according to the alarming rise of sexual violence across the globe says otherwise. There are key risk factors for VAWG which includes “food shortages, unemployment, economic insecurity, school closures, massive migration flows, and the threat of civil unrest” (UN Women.org). You may be wondering, how does these factors impact the increased amount of VAWG? Well, believe it or not, it does. Different forms of violence such as psychological, physical, sexual, and economic forms of domestic violence such as being low on food and confined living conditions have a great impact. Financial struggles and school closures intensify the risks of violence towards girls such as trafficking, assault, child marriage, and harrassment. In addition, the pandemic has closed transportation and support services such as SOS hotline, rape cilinical management, shelters, sexual and reproductive health services which creates difficulties for survivors to access support (such as justice, medical aid, health care, social protection, and more). A lot of these shelters and/or services are facing difficulties to obtain food, maintain hygiene, and specific resources for different cases. Therefore, many victims assume that they are closed and end up not seeking for help which dangers themselves even more. 

In the context of 2020 alongside the global pandemic, the UNiTE outlined their engagement strategy for their advocacy focus which are: Fund, Prevent, Respond and Collect. 

Here is a little summary for what each focus means: 

Fund: 
- More efficient, flexible, and available funding process for women’s rights organizations of COVID and Gender-based Violence (GBV)
- Prioritize funding packages of essential services for GBV
- Prioritize funding for GBV prevention 

Prevent:
- Declare that GBV will not be tolerated with a realistic and detailed plan in place
- “Launch a COVID-19 behaviour change social mobilization campaign”

Respond:
- Prioritize services to survivors of GBV as it maintain essential during the COVID-19 lockdown and also ensuring adequate criminal justice response
- Ensure minimum essential services maintained

Collect:
- “Collect data for improvements of GBV services and programmes (always ensuring survivor-centered and ethical safety standards)”


**What can you do to help?**


It is always important to help spread awareness about VAWG and GBV no matter what. Here are 4 things (of course there are more) YOU can do to help and participate both within the 16 days of activism and in your daily life:

1. Educate yourself: Education is the first step to activism and prevention. Read stories of survivors or research about GBV and VAWG through blogs or watch or any kind of resources you like to educate yourself with.
2. Start dialogues: An inspirational individual named Faye Simanjutak (wink wink) taught me that the best step after education is to start dialogues. Talk to your friends, family and the people around you all about it and get them interested!
3. Buy from women entrepreneurs: According to UN Women, empowering women economically keeps women from being entirely dependent on their partners and also helps survivors rebuild their lives.”
4. Learn the language: Break and fight gender stereotypes. Place both women and men on an equal level where there is fairness and equality among everyone. 

To conclude, the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence is an event that occurs every year from the 25th of November through the 10th of December. It is where people from around the world give their attention to the multiple forms of violence a victim has to go through. With the pandemic, things are getting a lot more tough and difficult for victims to reach out to support services. We might not be able to remove sexual violence in a snap, but by making contributions together, we can make the world a better place for an individual one step at a time.

Author : [@keneishacm](https://www.instagram.com/keneishacm/)
Editor : [Mellysa Anastasya](https://www.instagram.com/mbatasa/)
Translator [Faye Simanjuntak](https://www.instagram.com/chocodaawg/)


Bibliography:


[“16 Days of Activism Against Gender Violence.” ](www.who.int/violence_injury_prevention/violence/global_campaign/16_days/en/index2.html) World Health Organization, World Health Organization,22 Nov. 2012

[“16 Days of Activism against Gender-Based Violence: What We Do: Ending Violence against Women and Girls: Take Action.”](www.unwomen.org/en/what-we-do/ending-violence-against-women/take-action/16-days-of-activism) UN Women.

[“16 Ways, 16 Days: Your Guide to Ending Violence against Women.”](www.unwomen.org/en/news/stories/2018/11/feature-guide-to-ending-violence-against-women) UN Women.

[“Orange the World: 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence.”](www.euro.who.int/en/health-topics/health-determinants/gender/news/news/2019/11/orange-the-world-16-days-of-activism-against-gender-based-violence) World Health Organization, World Health Organization, 22 Nov. 2019. 

[“Series: What Does That Mean? Gender-Based Violence: Women for Women International.”](www.womenforwomen.org/blogs/series-what-does-mean-gender-based-violence) TWICE the Impact for Women Survivors of War.

[“Three Things You Can Do About Gender-Based Violence: Women for Women International.”](www.womenforwomen.org/blogs/three-things-you-can-do-about-gender-based-violence) TWICE the Impact for Women Survivors of War.

[“What Are the 16 Days of Activism?”](iwda.org.au/what-are-the-16-days-of-activism-and-why-should-you-care/) IWDA, 16 Nov. 2020.

> A UN campaign called the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence has a goal to spread awareness as they seek to make a change in the world and make things right. Violence against women and girls (VAWG) has gradually increased over the years as it escalates around the world. This call for action hopes to change that. 

**What is Gender-based Violence (GBV)?**


Gender-based violence is violence that is directed to an individual’s gender identity. This may include “physical, sexual, verbal, emotional, and psychological abuse, threats, coercion, and economic or education deprivation” (Women for Women International.org). 

**What is the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence?**


The 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence is an international campaign that takes place every year starting from the 25th of November (International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women) to 10th of December (International Human Rights Day). This campaign originated from the first Women’s Global Leadership Institute in 1991 and ever since then, the event has been conducted every year by the Center for Women’s Global Leadership (CWLG). “Under the leadership of the UN Secretary-General, Antonio Guterres, the United Nations Secretary-general’s UNiTE by 2030 to End Violence Against Women campaign (UNiTE Campaign)” (UN Women.org). From the year of their launch in 2008, they continue to strive over the years for their goal as they call youths, governments, organizations, the media, private sectors, and the entire UN community to join forces. 

**Background History about the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence:**


Patria, Minerva, and Maria Teresa Mirabal are three sisters who are political activists who frequently spoke up about the hardships when in rule by Trujillo dictatorship in the Dominican Republic. He was known for his brutal and ruthless ways of leading by tolerating no free speech and no free press. On 25 November 1960, the three sisters were killed “and dumped at the bottom of the cliff by Turjillo’s secret police” (International Women’s Development Agency.org). The Mirabal sisters were symbolized as feminist resistance and the 25th of November is known as the International Day for Elimination of Violence against Women in Latin America since 1980 (later in 1999, this declared holiday was noticed by the UN). In June 1991, CWLG declared a new campaign called what we now know as the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence. Ever since then, every year people around the world would raise awareness about “discriminatory attitudes and call for improved laws and services to end violence against women for good” (International Women’s Development Agency.org). 

**Why is it important?**


For over centuries, VAWG has been so normalized in our society until now. Growing up, many young girls around the world were controlled and judged based on the eyes of men and society itself. The purpose for this activism is to give the spotlight or the attention to people that have to go through any type of violence and also to educate others. Forms of violence consist of sexual harassment, abuse, exploitation, drug-fascilitated assault, and more. It creates a public notice to everyone in the world and to help victims that have been silenced and have not been given justice, a chance to share their story. 

**2020 Context:**


In March 11, 2020 the World Health Organization (WHO) declared the COVID-19 outbreak, a global pandemic. Due to this pandemic, people were told to stay home and quarantine themselves to avoid gatherings of big groups. Although for some, it may seem lockdown isn’t as bad. However, according to the alarming rise of sexual violence across the globe says otherwise. There are key risk factors for VAWG which includes “food shortages, unemployment, economic insecurity, school closures, massive migration flows, and the threat of civil unrest” (UN Women.org). You may be wondering, how does these factors impact the increased amount of VAWG? Well, believe it or not, it does. Different forms of violence such as psychological, physical, sexual, and economic forms of domestic violence such as being low on food and confined living conditions have a great impact. Financial struggles and school closures intensify the risks of violence towards girls such as trafficking, assault, child marriage, and harrassment. In addition, the pandemic has closed transportation and support services such as SOS hotline, rape cilinical management, shelters, sexual and reproductive health services which creates difficulties for survivors to access support (such as justice, medical aid, health care, social protection, and more). A lot of these shelters and/or services are facing difficulties to obtain food, maintain hygiene, and specific resources for different cases. Therefore, many victims assume that they are closed and end up not seeking for help which dangers themselves even more. 

In the context of 2020 alongside the global pandemic, the UNiTE outlined their engagement strategy for their advocacy focus which are: Fund, Prevent, Respond and Collect. 

Here is a little summary for what each focus means: 

Fund: 
- More efficient, flexible, and available funding process for women’s rights organizations of COVID and Gender-based Violence (GBV)
- Prioritize funding packages of essential services for GBV
- Prioritize funding for GBV prevention 

Prevent:
- Declare that GBV will not be tolerated with a realistic and detailed plan in place
- “Launch a COVID-19 behaviour change social mobilization campaign”

Respond:
- Prioritize services to survivors of GBV as it maintain essential during the COVID-19 lockdown and also ensuring adequate criminal justice response
- Ensure minimum essential services maintained

Collect:
- “Collect data for improvements of GBV services and programmes (always ensuring survivor-centered and ethical safety standards)”


**What can you do to help?**


It is always important to help spread awareness about VAWG and GBV no matter what. Here are 4 things (of course there are more) YOU can do to help and participate both within the 16 days of activism and in your daily life:

1. Educate yourself: Education is the first step to activism and prevention. Read stories of survivors or research about GBV and VAWG through blogs or watch or any kind of resources you like to educate yourself with.
2. Start dialogues: An inspirational individual named Faye Simanjutak (wink wink) taught me that the best step after education is to start dialogues. Talk to your friends, family and the people around you all about it and get them interested!
3. Buy from women entrepreneurs: According to UN Women, empowering women economically keeps women from being entirely dependent on their partners and also helps survivors rebuild their lives.”
4. Learn the language: Break and fight gender stereotypes. Place both women and men on an equal level where there is fairness and equality among everyone. 

To conclude, the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence is an event that occurs every year from the 25th of November through the 10th of December. It is where people from around the world give their attention to the multiple forms of violence a victim has to go through. With the pandemic, things are getting a lot more tough and difficult for victims to reach out to support services. We might not be able to remove sexual violence in a snap, but by making contributions together, we can make the world a better place for an individual one step at a time.

Author : [@keneishacm](https://www.instagram.com/keneishacm/)
Editor : [Mellysa Anastasya](https://www.instagram.com/mbatasa/)
Translator [Faye Simanjuntak](https://www.instagram.com/chocodaawg/)


Bibliography:


[“16 Days of Activism Against Gender Violence.” ](www.who.int/violence_injury_prevention/violence/global_campaign/16_days/en/index2.html) World Health Organization, World Health Organization,22 Nov. 2012
[“16 Days of Activism against Gender-Based Violence: What We Do: Ending Violence against Women and Girls: Take Action.”](www.unwomen.org/en/what-we-do/ending-violence-against-women/take-action/16-days-of-activism) UN Women.
[“16 Ways, 16 Days: Your Guide to Ending Violence against Women.”](www.unwomen.org/en/news/stories/2018/11/feature-guide-to-ending-violence-against-women) UN Women.
[“Orange the World: 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence.”](www.euro.who.int/en/health-topics/health-determinants/gender/news/news/2019/11/orange-the-world-16-days-of-activism-against-gender-based-violence) World Health Organization, World Health Organization, 22 Nov. 2019. 
[“Series: What Does That Mean? Gender-Based Violence: Women for Women International.”](www.womenforwomen.org/blogs/series-what-does-mean-gender-based-violence) TWICE the Impact for Women Survivors of War.
[“Three Things You Can Do About Gender-Based Violence: Women for Women International.”](www.womenforwomen.org/blogs/three-things-you-can-do-about-gender-based-violence) TWICE the Impact for Women Survivors of War.
[“What Are the 16 Days of Activism?”](iwda.org.au/what-are-the-16-days-of-activism-and-why-should-you-care/) IWDA, 16 Nov. 2020.

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In greeting the COVID-19 pandemic, Indonesia began instituting numerous measures to prevent further spreading of the virus. Lockdowns, quarantines, and travel restrictions were all put into place within days of the first case being announced. The travel restrictions, at first glance, should have decreased the numbers of trafficking and exploitation.

Traffickers, however, adapt quickly. Perpetrators of trafficking, exploitation, and abuse commonly utilize less-than-ideal socio-economic situations in order to trap targets. The pandemic further exacerbated the precarious socio-economic position of many individuals, who became increasingly vulnerable to crimes of exploitation. Unfortunately, the pandemic also meant decreased accessibility to resources that could support victims. Cases of online sexual exploitation began to crop up faster than we could handle, in which the perpetrators were commonly the people closest to the victims - mothers, fathers, uncles. Our government was distinctly unprepared to respond to the increase of online exploitation. In the same way, nonprofits like ourselves were overwhelmed by the sudden influx of victims into our safehouse - in the past few months, Rumah Faye has taken on a higher concentration of girls into the safehouse in comparison to any point in time since 2016. 

With the increase of the number of cases, there has been a troubling increase in severity as well. For victims stuck in the same homes as their abuser, a majority endured increased violence due to the feelings of insecurity and frustration that permeated the walls of their homes. Furthermore, lack of access to healthcare has meant that wounds go untreated. Higher rates of depression and anxiety are found in our kids as a result of prolonged and uninterrupted abuse. 

I worry for numbers on trafficking as the measures to combat COVID-19 begin to recede. With higher unemployment rates, many groups are far more vulnerable to trafficking and forced labour. Some are unaware of the risks. Others are, but feel they have no other option. In all honesty, I almost could not bring myself to celebrate this 7th birthday - what is there, after all, to celebrate?

Yet in my many drafts of writing this reflection, I was brought back to our girls in the safehouse.

When the COVID-19 pandemic began in Indonesia early this year, I was in Batam. I had gotten up from the mattress on the floor at 6AM, haphazardly made the bed, and walked out to the little garden where my kids grew their fruits and vegetables. Across the little garden, an arm stretched itself straight into the cool air, waving me over. The arm belongs to L, who yells that breakfast is rice and fried catfish with kangkung - your favourite!

I find myself settling into a circle (of sorts) with six people. Next to me sits R, who wordlessly shoves a half-finished crochet piece into my lap. I’ll help you finish it, she says. E comes out of her room then, a lumpy piece of pottery in her hand. Look at this one! she crows, I bet Kak Faye made it. She’s right, it is mine, but I vigorously shake my head in denial as the other girls laugh. 

There is so much here. So much love and humour and fight that I’m desperately trying to stuff into these simple letters of the alphabet. So much character. I can’t tell you how old they are, or what their names are, or even their real initials. I can’t tell you where they’re from or the horrors they’ve pushed through. Not because I forget (in this line of work, we never forget), but because doing so would put them in danger.

Despite what I can’t tell you, I can tell you about growth. Our girls come into the safehouse with hearts so heavy I cannot even begin to describe it. There’s so much fear, in the beginning. Fear of others, of trying, of failing. There are moments where we feel helpless, unable to do anything more. Somehow, a light shines through. Sometimes it’s a moment - a final piece of pottery, a completed crochet bag, an A on a math test. Other times, it’s gradual - internal growth along with regaining body weight after years of malnutrition, laughter that becomes louder and louder until the walls can’t hold it in. 

Over the past seven years, we’ve lost so much. We’ve hurt. I can’t talk about them in-depth right now, but I can only say that I know, too well, how things can feel hopeless. 

As I’ve lost, however, I’ve gained in other ways. I’ve learnt from my kids the absolute, all-encompassing power of courage seeded in love. I’ve seen their ability to overcome, to flourish, to persist when all (and I mean all) the odds were against them. 

Sitting in the circle that morning, I remember feeling so uniquely overwhelmed. I don’t know why - nobody said anything, nobody even really did anything out of the ordinary - but something in that moment made me feel so incredibly comfortable. Comforted. Because these were kids, our kids, who we’d seen grow so much, so well, and I overflowed with pride. With gratefulness. 

Today, Rumah Faye turns seven (!!!!!!) years old. When I tell you I never dreamt of this, I’m not exaggerating - I never meant to establish a non-profit organization, much less establish a safehouse. I was an 11-year-old kid with the simple idea that change could only be made through grassroots-based movement. It was simple: in order to solve an issue, any issue, the most vulnerable population had to be directly involved. In my case, children as a contributing member of the child protection framework. 

Since then, we’ve provided 18 scholarships, helped the recovery of 110 girls, and overseen the delivery of five babies. During the COVID-19 pandemic, with the support of all our incredible partners, we’ve been able to provide for over 1000 of our families and their surrounding communities. 

There are so many people to thank, but at the heart of it is my team, both past and present. Mbak Dewi, Kak Tika, Kak Lina, Kak Rista, Kak Tiwi, Kak Irna, Pak Nanang, Mbak Nur, Pak Cipri, Bu Siti, Bude, Kak Tasya, Mbak Retno, and Kak Imam - thank you. For the team in the safehouse, who tirelessly work with our girls, despite all the harm and failures they may face, I thank God for you every single hour of the day. To the team in Jakarta, who extend themselves to do the absolute best for our communities, I thank you. To my incredible volunteers, Sahabat Faye, your dedication never fails to astound me. For your support and dedication, despite the heaviness that you all face. Rumah Faye wouldn’t be the same without each of you. Most of all, to my family who supported me - thank you. My Mom, especially, who believed in me and inspired me. 

Seven years haven’t flown by. I’ve felt the years trickle past, as we face hardship after hardship, loss after loss. With it, though, has grown an immeasurable appreciation for those beside me. Those who’ve shown me how to choose courage. 

Seven years feels hard to celebrate, but I’ve got to welcome it the way my kids have taught me: with courage, seeded in love.

Love,

[Faye Simanjuntak](https://www.instagram.com/chocodaawg/)
 
Founder of Rumah Faye

Pada awal pandemi COVID-19, Indonesia mulai melaksanakan berbagai macam protokol untuk mencegah penyebaran virus tersebut. *Lockdown,* karantina, dan PSBB diberlakukan secara langsung setelah pengumuman kasus pertama di Jakarta. Protokol-protokol tersebut, sepenglihatan awal, mestinya bisa mengurangi terjadinya kasus perdagangan dan eksploitasi.
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Namun, pelaku TPPO (Tindak Pidana Perdagangan Orang) beradaptasi dengan cepat. Para pelaku umumnya memanfaatkan situasi sosio-ekonomik yang kurang ideal untuk menjebak sasaran mereka. Selama pandemi ini, kami melihat bahwa posisi sosio-ekonomik banyak individu memburuk, dan membuat mereka semakin rentan terhadap kejahatan eksploitasi. Lebih parahnya, pandemi juga menyebabkan penurunan aksesibilitas ke fasilitas yang dapat melayani korban. Kasus eksploitasi seksual daring (*online*) mulai bermunculan lebih cepat dari yang bisa kami tangani, dimana pelaku pada umumnya adalah orang-orang terdekat korban. Pemerintah tidak siap untuk menangani peningkatan eksploitasi *online*. Organisasi nirlaba seperti kami juga kewalahan oleh angka korban yang masuk ke rumah aman. Dalam beberapa bulan terakhir, Rumah Faye telah melihat pengajuan kasus yang jauh meningkat jika dibandingkan dengan tahun-tahun sebelumnya.

Dengan meningkatnya jumlah kasus, telah juga terjadi peningkatan keparahan kasus. Untuk para korban yang terjebak di rumah dengan pelaku kekerasan, mayoritas mengalami peningkatan kekerasan karena perasaan tidak aman dan frustasi dari pelaku. Selain itu, kurangnya akses pelayanan kesehatan berarti bahwa banyak luka tidak dapat diobati. Tingkat depresi dan kecemasan yang lebih tinggi juga ditemukan pada anak-anak kita sebagai akibat dari pelecehan yang berkepanjangan dan tidak terputus.

Aku juga mengkhawatirkan peningkatan angka perdagangan manusia setelah COVID-19 mulai surut. Dengan tingkat pengangguran yang lebih tinggi, banyak kelompok menjadi jauh lebih rentan terhadap perdagangan dan eksploitasi. Beberapa tidak menyadari risikonya. Lainnya sadar, tetapi merasa tidak punya pilihan lain. Sejujurnya, aku hampir merasa tidak perlu untuk merayakan ulang tahun Rumah Faye  ke-7 ini. Apa yang bisa dirayakan?

Namun dalam banyak draf yang aku tulis untuk refleksi ini, aku dibawa kembali kepada anak-anak.

Saat pandemi COVID-19 mulai di Indonesia pada awal tahun ini, aku berada di Batam. Aku bangun dan beranjak dari kasur jam 6 pagi,  merapikan tempat tidur, dan berjalan ke taman kecil dimana anak-anak menanam buah-buahan dan sayuran. Di seberang taman kecil, sebuah tangan terulur ke atas, dan melambai padaku. Tangan itu milik L, yang berteriak bahwa sarapan adalah pecel lele dengan kangkung - kesukaanmu!

Dengan piringku, aku duduk di sebuah lingkaran dengan enam orang. Di sampingku duduk R, yang tanpa berkata-kata mendorong potongan rajutan setengah jadi ke pangkuanku. *Nanti ku bantuin ampe selesai, Kak,*  katanya. Kemudian, E keluar dari kamarnya, dengan mangkok jelek di tangannya. *Eh, lihat yang ini!* dia cekikikan, *pasti ini buatan Kak Faye!* Dia benar, itu milikku, tapi aku menggelengkan kepala dengan keras sambil anak-anak lainnya tertawa.

Banyak hal ada dan terjadi di sini. Penuh dengan kasih, tawa, cekcok, dan karakter yang susah payah aku tuangkan ke dalam huruf-huruf alfabet sederhana ini. Aku tidak bisa memberitahu kalian berapa usia mereka, siapa nama mereka, atau bahkan inisial asli mereka. Aku tidak dapat memberitahu kalian dari mana mereka berasal atau trauma yang pernah mereka alami. Bukan karena aku lupa (dalam pekerjaan ini, kami tidak pernah lupa), tetapi karena melakukan hal tersebut akan membahayakan mereka.

Di lain sisi, aku dapat bercerita tentang perkembangan. Anak-anak perempuan masuk ke rumah aman dengan hati yang begitu berat sampai aku tidak bisa mendeskripsikannya. Ada begitu banyak ketakutan, pada awalnya. Takut pada orang lain, takut mencoba, takut gagal. Ada saat-saat dimana kami merasa tidak berdaya dan tidak dapat berbuat apa-apa lagi. Tetapi, entah bagaimana, cahaya terus bersinar. Terkadang, itu terjadi pada hal sederhana sehari-hari - tembikar yang sudah jadi, tas rajutan yang sudah lengkap, nilai A dalam ujian matematika. Di lain waktu, terjadi secara pelan tapi pasti - pertumbuhan internal pribadi tiap anak, seiring dengan bertambahnya berat badan setelah bertahun-tahun kekurangan gizi, tawa yang semakin keras membahana dan tidak lagi tertahan-tahan.

Selama tujuh tahun terakhir, kami telah kehilangan banyak hal. Kami terluka. Aku tidak dapat membicarakannya secara mendalam sekarang, hanya bisa mengatakan bahwa aku tahu betul apa itu rasanya bekerja tanpa harapan. Namun, dalam kehilangan ini, aku juga belajar dari anak-anak tentang keberanian absolut yang ditanamkan dalam rasa kasih dan sayang. Aku telah melihat kemampuan mereka untuk terus bertumbuh, berkembang, dan bertahan ketika semua pihak di dunia seakan-akan melawan mereka.

Saat duduk di lingkaran bersama anak-anak pagi itu, aku ingat merasa sangat senang. Aku tidak tahu kenapa - padahal tidak ada yang mengatakan apa-apa, bahkan tidak ada yang melakukan sesuatu yang menghibur - tetapi suatu hal pada saat itu membuat aku merasa sangat nyaman. Karena ini adalah anak-anak yang sudah tumbuh dan berkembang, dan hati saya seakan-akan meluap dengan rasa bangga. Dengan rasa syukur.

Hari ini, Rumah Faye berusia tujuh (!!!!!!) tahun. Aku tidak pernah bermaksud mendirikan organisasi nonprofit, apalagi sampai mendirikan rumah aman. Aku hanya anak berusia 11 tahun dengan kepercayaan bahwa perubahan hanya dapat dilakukan melalui gerakan berbasis akar rumput. Sederhana saja: untuk menyelesaikan suatu masalah, masalah apapun, kelompok yang paling rentan mesti dilibatkan secara langsung. Anak-anak adalah anggota yang berkontribusi dalam kerangka perlindungan anak.

Sejak itu, kami telah memberikan 18 beasiswa, membantu pemulihan 110 anak perempuan dan perempuan dewasa, serta mendampingi persalinan lima bayi. Selama pandemi COVID-19, dengan dukungan dari semua mitra kami yang luar biasa, kami dapat membantu lebih dari 1000 keluarga di komunitas dan warga sekitarnya.

Ada begitu banyak orang yang kuanggap mendorong Rumah Faye untuk menjadi seperti ini, tetapi yang terpenting  adalah timku, dari 2013 sampai sekarang. Mbak Dewi, Kak Tika, Kak Lina, Kak Rista, Kak Tiwi, Kak Irna, Pak Nanang, Mbak Nur, Pak Cipri, Bu Siti, Bude, Kak Tasya, Mbak Retno, dan Kak Imam - terima kasih. Untuk tim di rumah aman, yang tanpa lelah bekerja dengan anak-anak, aku berterima kasih kepada Tuhan setiap hari untuk dedikasi kalian. Untuk tim di Jakarta, yang selalu berupaya melakukan yang terbaik untuk mitra komunitas, aku berterima kasih sebanyak-banyaknya. Kepada para Sahabat Faye, terima kasih yang tulus untuk dedikasi kakak-kakak kepada isu yang kita perjuangkan. Terlepas dari beban berat yang tim hadapi, kalian terus menjadi inspirasiku untuk bekerja keras. Tidak kalah penting, untuk keluarga yang selalu mendukung Rumah Faye- terima kasih. Terutama Mama, yang selalu percaya padaku dan selalu menginspirasi.

Tujuh tahun sudah berlalu. Aku meresapi setiap tahun yang kami lewati - saat menghadapi kesulitan demi kesulitan, saat menerima kehilangan demi kehilangan. Karena itu semua, aku juga merasakan apresiasi yang tak terukur untuk orang-orang di sampingku. Mereka yang mengajariku caranya untuk selalu berani.

Saat ini, hari jadi yang ke tujuh terasa sulit untuk dirayakan, tetapi aku harus menyambutnya seperti yang diajarkan anak-anak kepadaku: dengan keberanian yang dibalut dalam rasa kasih dan sayang.

Salam Hangat,

[Faye Simanjuntak](https://www.instagram.com/chocodaawg/)

Pendiri Rumah Faye


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Reflection: 7 Years of Rumah Faye Journey

Refleksi:  7 Tahun Perjalanan Rumah Faye

[Fayola Maulida](https://www.instagram.com/faymaulidaa/)

Cases of sexual assault involve two parties - the perpetrator and the victim. However, victims of sexual assault are often targets of community exclusion. A negative attitude is associated with them, especially when the case is widely publicized. Words such as *nakal* (naughty) or *pembangkang* (disobedient) are often spread through word of mouth. As a result of these labels, victims face alienation and are further burdened. Most concerningly, their recovery slows down. So, what actions can we take to remove the stigma against victims of sexual assault? 

Supporting the recovery of victims and their independence despite negative public assumptions can be done through various actions. The fight for complete elimination of victim blaming and stigma is a process made up numerous steps. Fundamentally, however, one must begin with educating oneself. Be brave to ask questions. What is stigma? Why does stigma grow?

**What is stigma?**

Stigma is a negative characteristic that sticks to a person's perceived personality due to the influence of his environment. Goffman (1963) states "the stigma as a sign or a mark that designates the bearer as 'spoiled' and therefore as valued less than normal people". As a result of this stigma, various individals have emerged who claim that victims of sexual violence are “naughty” or “untrue” individuals. As a result, they blame victims for their trauma.

**Why does stigma grow?**

Stigma can grow in society due to a lack of understanding. Not everyone understands what sexual assault is, along with the effects it can have on victims. Unfortunately, mass media has a big role to play in the growth of stigma as well. Media coverage often includes negative images of victims, the presentation of myths, stereotypes about sexual violence that are not necessarily true, and many other things that give negative connotations to victims. According to Link and Phelan (2001), stigma grows out of four processes: (1) human difference labeling; (2) stereotyping these differences; (3) separate the labeled individual from "us"; and (4) loss of status and discriminatory treatment against those who are labeled.

**What is the effect of stigma? Why does stigma need to be eliminated?**

The presence of stigma can have several impacts on victims. In full, the results of Phulf's research (in Simanjuntak; 2005) found several impacts or consequences of stigma:


1. People who are stigmatized find it difficult to find help
2. Stigma makes it even more difficult to restore the life of a stigmatized individual, because stigma can cause erosion of individual self-confidence, thereby attracting individuals from society.
3. Stigma causes discrimination, so stigmatized individuals find it difficult to find accommodation and work.
4. Society can be harsher and less humane to stigmatized individuals.
5. The family of the stigmatized individual is humiliated and disturbed.

Furthermore, victims struggle with the thought that the stigma surrounding them defines them. This causes reluctance to report, follow up, or seek help for the sexual assault that they experienced. Fear of community alienation follows victims in their everyday lives, and dissuades many from seeking or receiving the help they sorely need. It’s important to note that delayed and slowed recovery for victims of sexual assault can cause serious physical and/or emotional wounds in the future. 

**What are the forms and components of stigma?**

The components of stigma are as follows:



1. Labeling: differentiating and labeling or naming based on the differences that the community members have.
2. Stereotype: A conception of the nature of a group based on subjective and imprecise prejudice.
3. Separation: The separation of "us" (as the party who does not have a stigma or giver of stigma) from "them" (the group that gets stigma).

**What can we do to stop the stigma around victims of sexual assault from spreading?**


- Learn and understand the different forms of sexual violence. From there, differentiate between myths and facts surrounding sexual assault. Know that you have an active role to play in correcting the stereotypes that are circulating. Then, you can spread it to the public (this means your friends, family, classmates, or more!) in order to grow awareness of related matters.
- Stigma arises from people's fear. Often, fear comes from confusing information in the public. The best step is not to spread unreputable news. This includes gossip, fake news, and speech that spreads hatred to victims. Verify all information you spread!
- Give the victim space to process and understand the incident. Don't press the victim with questions. Make sure that the victim knows that they are not alone and that it is not their fault.
- Avoid being judgmental and always offer support and assistance to victims of sexual violence.

After examining the varying traumatic influences that stigma has on victims, we have to take on a participative role to get rid of that stigma in our communities. To victims, remember that you can recover. We will always support you. It will take time, but it is not impossible. 

To all, remember that there is no room for cases of sexual assault in Indonesia!

Sumber:

[RR Dian Tristiana. 2017. Stigma.](http://rrdiantristiana-fkp.web.unair.ac.id/artikel_detail-170705-Mental%20health%20Nursing-STIGMA.html)
Merujuk kepada:
- Goffman E. 1963. Stigma: Notes on the management of spoiled identity. Englewood Cliffs, NJ: Prentice Hall.
- Link, B. G., & Phelan, J. C. 2010. Labeling and stigma. In T. L. Scheid & T. N. Brown (Eds.), A handbook for the study of mental health: Social contexts, theories, and systems (p. 571–587). Cambridge University Press
- Simanjuntak, W. 2005. Upaya Mengatasi Stigma Masyarakat pada Narapidana. Depok: Fakultas Psikologi UI.)

[Fayola Maulida](https://www.instagram.com/faymaulidaa/)

Kasus kekerasan seksual melibatkan dua pihak, yaitu pelaku dan korban. Namun, korban kekerasan seksual seringkali menjadi sasaran pengucilan masyarakat. Cap negatif selalu disematkan pada dirinya. Apalagi, bila kasus tersebut sudah dikenal oleh khalayak ramai. Kata ‘nakal’ atau ‘pembangkang’ seringkali terucap dari mulut ke mulut. Padahal, dengan lekatnya label tersebut, korban jadi memiliki lebih banyak rasa takut. Tidak hanya beban, tetapi proses pemulihan pun menjadi lamban. Jadi sekarang, tindakan apa yang harus kita lakukan untuk menghapus stigma pada korban?

Dukungan kepada korban untuk pulih dan bangkit kembali dari kelamnya asumsi publik dapat direalisasikan melalui berbagai aksi. Perlawanan demi penghapusan tuntas stigma yang beredar terdiri atas berbagai langkah. Namun, gerakan mendasar yang mampu kita lakukan adalah edukasi diri. Hal ini dapat dimulai dari menjawab pertanyaan-pertanyaan mendasar seperti apa itu stigma? Mengapa stigma dapat tumbuh? 

**Apa itu stigma?**
Stigma merupakan ciri negatif yang menempel pada pribadi seseorang karena pengaruh lingkungannya. Goffman (1963) menyatakan “stigma as a sign or a mark that designates the bearer as ‘spoiled’ and therefore as valued less than normal people”. Hal tersebut berarti bahwa stigma adalah tanda atau ciri yang menandakan bahwa pemilik stigma membawa sesuatu yang buruk, maka dari itu dinilai lebih rendah dibandingkan dengan orang lainnya. Akibat dari stigma ini, timbullah berbagai pandangan yang menyatakan bahwa korban kekerasan seksual merupakan individu yang ‘nakal’ atau ‘tidak benar’. Serta, banyak juga yang menyalahkan korban atas kasus kekerasan seksual yang dialaminya.

**Mengapa stigma bisa tumbuh?**
Stigma dapat tumbuh pada masyarakat karena kurangnya pemahaman. Tidak semua orang mengerti apa itu kekerasan seksual dan dampak-dampak yang dapat terjadi pada korban. Peran media massa dalam pertumbuhan stigma ini juga memberikan dampak yang besar. Seperti gambaran negatif terhadap korban, disajikannya mitos-mitos, stereotip terhadap kekerasan seksual yang belum tentu benar adanya, dan banyak hal lain. Menurut Link and Phelan (2001), stigma tumbuh dari empat proses: (1) *pelabelan perbedaan manusia;* (2) *pemberian stereotip atas perbedaan tersebut;* (3) *memisahkan individu yang diberi label dari "kita";* dan (4) *hilangnya status dan perlakuan diskriminasi terhadap mereka yang diberi label*.

**Apa pengaruh dari stigma? Mengapa stigma perlu dimusnahkan?**
Kehadiran stigma dapat memberikan pengaruh kepada korban. Lengkapnya, pada hasil penelitian Phulf (dalam Simanjuntak; 2005) ditemukan ada beberapa dampak atau akibat dari stigma:
1. Orang yang terstigma sulit mencari bantuan
2. Stigma membuat semakin sulit memulihkan kehidupan individu yang terstigma, karena stigma dapat menyebabkan erosi kepercayaan diri (self-confidence) individu, sehingga tertariknya individu dari masyarakat.
3. Stigma menyebabkan diskriminasi, sehingga individu yang terstigma sulit mendapatkan akomodasi dan pekerjaan.
4. Masyarakat bisa lebih kasar dan kurang manusiawi pada individu yang terstigma.
5. Keluarga individu yang terstigma menjadi lebih terhina dan terganggu.

Pengaruh lebih lanjut terhadap korban dapat berupa timbulnya ketakutan atas melekatnya stigma-stigma tersebut. Sehingga, tumbuh rasa enggan untuk melapor, menindaklanjuti, atau mencari pertolongan atas perilaku kekerasan seksual yang korban alami. Kekhawatiran atas rekam jejak buruk korban di mata masyarakat bak momok yang terus mengikuti. Akibat dari tertundanya pemulihan pada korban kekerasan seksual dapat memberikan luka yang lebih gawat bagi masa depan mereka.

**Bagaimana bentuk dan komponen stigma?**
Komponen-komponen dari stigma adalah sebagai berikut:
1. **Labeling:** Pembedaan dan pemberian label atau penamaan berdasarkan perbedaan yang dimiliki anggota masyarakat tersebut. 
2. **Stereotype:** Konsepsi mengenai sifat suatu golongan berdasarkan prasangka yang subjektif dan tidak tepat.
3. **Separation:** Pemisahan “kita” (sebagai pihak yang tidak memiliki stigma atau pemberi stigma) dengan “mereka” (kelompok yang mendapatkan stigma).

**Apa upaya yang dapat kita lakukan demi menghentikan stigma ini?**
- Pelajari serta pahami bentuk-bentuk kekerasan seksual. Ulas juga mitos dan fakta, hingga kebenaran atas stigma dan stereotip yang beredar. Sebarkan juga kepada publik agar tumbuh kesadaran terhadap hal-hal terkait.
- Stigma muncul dari ketakutan masyarakat. Ketakutan kerap kali didapat dari informasi yang simpang siur di khalayak ramai. Langkah yang paling baik dilakukan adalah untuk tidak menyebarkan berita yang belum diketahui kebenarannya. Seperti gosip, kabar bohong, dan ujaran yang menyebarkan kebencian terlebih kepada korban.
- Beri korban ruang untuk memproses dan memahami kejadian. Jangan menekan korban dengan pertanyaan-pertanyaan. Pastikan bahwa korban tahu bahwa ia tidak sendirian dan ini bukan salahnya. 
- Hindari sikap menghakimi dan selalu tawarkan dukungan dan bantuan untuk korban kekerasan seksual.

Mengupas fakta bahwa terdapat berbagai pengaruh traumatis yang dapat mempengaruhi korban dikarenakan stigma yang melekat, mengharuskan kita untuk memusnahkan stigma tersebut dengan cepat. Bagi korban, ingat bahwa selalu ada kesempatan untuk pulih dan bangkit kembali. Memang perlu waktu, tetapi itu sama sekali bukanlah hal yang mustahil. Akhir kata, selalu ingat bahwa tidak ada lagi ruang yang tersisa bagi kasus kekerasan seksual di Indonesia!

Sumber:

[RR Dian Tristiana. 2017. Stigma.](http://rrdiantristiana-fkp.web.unair.ac.id/artikel_detail-170705-Mental%20health%20Nursing-STIGMA.html)
Merujuk kepada:
- Goffman E. 1963. Stigma: Notes on the management of spoiled identity. Englewood Cliffs, NJ: Prentice Hall.
- Link, B. G., & Phelan, J. C. 2010. Labeling and stigma. In T. L. Scheid & T. N. Brown (Eds.), A handbook for the study of mental health: Social contexts, theories, and systems (p. 571–587). Cambridge University Press
- Simanjuntak, W. 2005. Upaya Mengatasi Stigma Masyarakat pada Narapidana. Depok: Fakultas Psikologi UI.)

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Erasing the Stigma Surrounding Victims of Sexual Assault

Menghapus Stigma Korban Kekerasan Seksual

[Fayola Maulida](https://www.instagram.com/faymaulidaa/)


> **Based on a survey regarding Sexual Harassment in Public Spaces at the end of 2013, 3 out of 5 women have experienced sexual harassment in public spaces. 1 in 2 victims of abuse are underage.**

Today, there is an increasing number of cases of sexual assault in Indonesia. With the current technological development, it’s hard to filter all the information that we receive. Realistically, do we understand the news when we read about cases of sexual assault? What do we know now? Let’s tackle the issue of sexual violence from the very beginning. 

**What is sexual violence?**


Sexual violence is any action, whether in the form of words or actions, that is done by a person to control or manipulate another person. And make him engage in unwanted sexual activity.

**According to the National Comission on Violence Against Women, there are 15 forms of sexual violence:**

1. Rape;
2. Sexual Intimidation, including Threats or Attempted Rape;
3. Sexual Harassment;
4. Sexual Exploitation;
5. Trafficking of Women for Sexual Purposes;
6. Forced Prostitution;
7. Sexual Slavery;
8. Coercion of marriage, including hanging divorce;
9. Coercion of Pregnancy;
10. Forced Abortion;
11. Forcing contraception and sterilization;
12. Sexual Torture;
13. The punishment is inhuman and sexual in nature;
14. Traditional sexual practices that harm or discriminate against women;
15. Sexual control, including through discriminatory regulations reasoned with morality and religion.

**Myths and Facts of Sexual Violence**

**Myth:** Sexual violence is rare.
**Fact:** Komnas Perempuan notes that from 2001-2012 there were at least 35 women who became victims of sexual assault every day. It was also found that every 3 hours, there were at least 2 women who had experienced sexual violence.

**Myth: **Victims of sexual violence wear revealing clothes.
**Fact:** The majority of victims of harassment do not wear revealing clothes when experiencing sexual harassment but wear: long pants/skirts (18%), hijabs (17%), long sleeves (16%), school uniforms (14%), and loose shirts ( 14%).

**Myth:** Men are not victims of sexual violence.
**Fact:** 1 in 10 victims of sexual harassment in public spaces are male.

**Myth:** Sexual harassment or violence only occurs at night.
**Fact:** Sexual violence doesn't just happen at night. It happens in the morning (17%), during the day (35%), in the evening (25%), and at night (21%).

**Myth:** Sexual violence is only done by strangers.
**Fact: **Sexual violence can take the form of forced sexual relations through threats, intimidation or physical force, forcing unwanted sexual relations or forcing sexual relations with other people. Perpetrators are not limited to strangers. However, it can come from married couples, boyfriends, even family members.
- In 2017, 51.29% perpetrators of sexual violence within private/personal realms were boyfriends.
- In 2016, 10.6% of women 15-64 years old who had been or were currently married had experienced physical or sexual violence at the hands of their partners.
- 40.6% of the forms of sexual violence in the private sphere are mostly cases of incest. It is largely committed by biological fathers, uncles, older siblings and grandparents.

**Myth: **Sexual violence is the victim's fault, because the victim "attracts" the perpetrator's attention.
**Fact: **Sexual violence is never the victim’s fault. Victim blaming culture must be eliminated. It is the perpetrator who acts and initiates sexual violence. Victim blaming can take the form of blaming the victim for her clothes, blaming her for not reporting immediately, or questioning why she went out at night alone. This blaming of the victim is what drives the stigma against victims of sexual violence in society. Victims' concern about the stigma that they can be excluded from social life is one of the many reasons for victims to be silent.**bold text**

> **Nearly 80% of victims of sexual violence do not report their cases to the police. As many as 20% of them are worried about receiving a negative stamp from the community, 13% feel the police will not help them, and 8% think their rapes are not important enough to report. Meanwhile, from the reports submitted to the police, only 2% of the perpetrators ended up in prison.**

So, what should we do if we are friends of victims of sexual violence?
1. Listen and believe the victim's story.
2. Don't stigmatize the victim.
3. Provide information on the rights of the victim.
4. Don't stay still. Get the victim to get help, but don't push it - this is their recovery.
5. Join advocacy activities.
6. Support institutions who provide institutes 

These facts are to encourage all of us to further educate ourselves and our communities to provide maximum support for victims of sexual assault. The myths that circulate must be ended now, and we have a role to play. Embrace and provide full support for victims. Indonesia is in a state of emergency in regards to cases of sexual violence. 


Sumber :

- ["Pernah jadi korban pelecehan di ruang publik ... - Change.org."](https://www.change.org/l/id/pernah-jadi-korban-pelecehan-di-ruang-publik-kamu-nggak-sendirian.) Accessed July 8, 2020. 
- ["Mengenali Kekerasan Seksual – Yayasan Pulih."](http://yayasanpulih.org/2017/06/mengenali-kekerasan-seksual/.) Accessed July 8, 2020. ["Kekerasan Seksual - Komnas Perempuan."](https://www.komnasperempuan.go.id/file/pdf_file/Modul%20dan%20Pedoman/Kekerasan%20Seksual/15%20BTK%20KEKERASAN%20SEKSUAL.pdf.) Accessed July 8, 2020. 
- ["CATAHU - Komnas Perempuan."](https://www.komnasperempuan.go.id/file/pdf_file/2018/SIARAN%20PERS%202018/Lembar%20Fakta%20Catahu%207%20Maret%202018.pdf.) Accessed July 8, 2020. 
- ["Kementerian Pemberdayaan Perempuan dan Perlindungan ...."](https://bulelengkab.go.id/assets/instansikab/126/bankdata/statistik-gender-tematik-mengakhiri-kekerasan-terhadap-perempuan-dan-anak-di-indonesia-66.pdf.) Accessed July 8, 2020. 
- ["Kenapa Korban Kekerasan Seksual Enggan ... - ASUMSI."](https://www.asumsi.co/post/kenapa-korban-kekerasan-seksual-enggan-melaporkan-kasusnya.) Accessed July 8, 2020. 
- ["kekerasan seksual - MaPPI FHUI."](http://mappifhui.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/MaPPI-FHUI-kekerasan-seksual.pdf.) Accessed July 8, 2020. 

[Fayola Maulida](https://www.instagram.com/faymaulidaa/)


> **Dilansir dari survey Pelecehan Seksual di Ruang Publik di akhir tahun 2018, 3 dari 5 perempuan pernah mengalami pelecehan seksual di ruang publik. 1 dari 2 korban pelecehan mengalaminya di bawah umur.**

Semakin hari, semakin banyak bermunculan kasus kekerasan seksual di Indonesia. Apalagi dengan kemajuan teknologi, sudah tidak dapat dihitung berapa banyak informasi yang masuk ke radar masyarakat setiap harinya. Semua simpang siur. Sebenarnya, apakah kita sudah sepenuhnya paham saat membaca berita soal kasus-kasus? Apakah pemahaman kita terhadap isu ini sudah benar? Mari kita ulas isu kekerasan seksual dari awal.

Apa itu kekerasan seksual?
Kekerasan seksual adalah setiap tindakan, baik berupa ucapan maupun perbuatan, yang dilakukan seseorang untuk menguasai atau memanipulasi orang lain. Serta membuatnya terlibat dalam aktivitas seksual yang tidak dikehendaki.

Menurut Komnas Perempuan, terdapat 15 bentuk kekerasan seksual:

1. Perkosaan;
2. Intimidasi Seksual termasuk Ancaman atau Percobaan Perkosaan;
3. Pelecehan Seksual;
4. Eksploitasi Seksual;
5. Perdagangan Perempuan untuk Tujuan Seksual;
6. Prostitusi Paksa;
7. Perbudakan Seksual;
8. Pemaksaan perkawinan, termasuk cerai gantung;
9. Pemaksaan Kehamilan;
10. Pemaksaan Aborsi;
11. Pemaksaan kontrasepsi dan sterilisasi;
12. Penyiksaan Seksual;
13. Penghukuman tidak manusiawi dan bernuansa seksual;
14. Praktik tradisi bernuansa seksual yang membahayakan atau mendiskriminasi perempuan;
15. Kontrol seksual, termasuk lewat aturan diskriminatif beralasan moralitas dan agama.
 
**Mitos dan Fakta Kekerasan Seksual**

**Mitos:** Kekerasan seksual jarang terjadi. 
**Fakta:** Komnas Perempuan mencatat, dari tahun 2001-2012 sedikitnya ada 35 perempuan menjadi korban kekerasan seksual setiap harinya. Dari data tersebut juga ditemukan bahwa setiap 3 jam setidaknya ada 2 perempuan yang mengalami kekerasan seksual tersebut.

**Mitos:** Korban kekerasan seksual pasti memakai pakaian terbuka. 
**Fakta:** Mayoritas korban pelecehan tidak mengenakan baju terbuka saat mengalami  pelecehan seksual melainkan memakai: celana/rok panjang (18%), hijab (17%), baju lengan panjang (16%), seragam sekolah (14%), dan baju longgar (14%).

**Mitos:** Laki-laki tidak ada yang menjadi korban kekerasan seksual. 
**Fakta:** 1 dari 10 korban pelecehan seksual di ruang publik merupakan laki-laki.

**Mitos:** Pelecehan atau kekerasan seksual hanya terjadi pada malam hari. 
**Fakta:** Kekerasan seksual tidak hanya terjadi pada malam hari. Namun, pagi hari (17%), siang hari (35%), sore hari (25%), malam hari (21%).

**Mitos:** Kekerasan seksual hanya dilakukan oleh orang tidak dikenal. 
**Fakta:** Kekerasan seksual dapat berupa pemaksaan hubungan seksual melalui ancaman, intimidasi atau kekuatan fisik, memaksakan hubungan seksual yang tidak diinginkan atau memaksa hubungan seksual dengan orang lain. Pelaku tidak terbatas kepada orang yang tidak dikenal. Namun, dapat berasal dari pasangan yang telah menikah, pacar, bahkan dari anggota keluarga. 
- 51.29% pelaku kekerasan seksual di ranah privat/personal pada tahun 2017 adalah pacar.
- Persentase perempuan 15-64 tahun yang pernah/sedang menikah yang mengalami kekerasan fisik atau seksual dilakukan oleh pasangan pada tahun 2016 sebesar 10.6%. 
- 40.6% bentuk kekerasan seksual dalam ranah privat terbanyak berupa kasus incest, yaitu kekerasan seksual oleh orang terdekat yang masih memiliki hubungan keluarga. Kekerasan seksual dalam ranah keluarga ini paling banyak dilakukan oleh ayah kandung, paman, kakak kandung dan kakek kadung. 

**Mitos:** Kekerasan seksual adalah salah korban, karena korban ‘mengundang’ perhatian sang pelaku. 
**Fakta:** Kekerasan seksual sama sekali bukan kesalahan korban. Budaya victim blaming atau menyalahkan korban harus dimusnahkan. Karena,     pelakulah yang bertindak dan memulai tindak kekerasan seksual ini. Victim blaming dapat berbentuk seperti menyalahkan korban karena pakaiannya, menyalahkan karena ia tidak segera melapor, atau mempertanyakan kenapa ia keluar malam sendirian. Perilaku menyalahkan korban inilah yang mendorong lahirnya stigma terhadap korban kekerasan seksual di masyarakat. Kekhawatiran korban atas stigma tersebut sampai bisa diasingkan dari kehidupan sosial merupakan salah satu dari sekian banyak alasan korban untuk bungkam. 

> **Hampir 80% korban kekerasan seksual tidak melaporkan kasusnya ke kepolisian. Sebanyak 20% dari mereka khawatir akan menerima cap negatif dari masyarakat, 13% merasa polisi tidak akan membantu mereka, dan 8% menganggap perkosaan yang mereka alami tidak cukup penting untuk dilaporkan. Sementara itu, dari laporan yang masuk ke polisi, hanya 2% pelaku yang berakhir di penjara.**

Apa yang harus kita lakukan bila kita adalah teman dari korban kekerasan seksual?

1. Dengar dan percaya cerita korban.
2. Jangan menstigma korban.
3. Beri informasi hak-hak korban.
4. Jangan tinggal diam. Ajak korban untuk mencari bantuan, tetapi jangan memaksa.
5. Ikut kegiatan advokasi.
6. Dukung lembaga layanan korban kekerasan seksual.

Fakta yang disajikan ini bertujuan untuk mendorong kita semua agar segera mengedukasi diri dan juga masyarakat guna memberikan pemahaman maksimal terkait isu kekerasan seksual. Mitos-mitos yang beredar harus disudahi mulai detik ini. Sekarang juga waktunya untuk merangkul dan memberikan dukungan penuh kepada korban. Indonesia darurat kekerasan seksual. 

Sumber :

- ["Pernah jadi korban pelecehan di ruang publik ... - Change.org."](https://www.change.org/l/id/pernah-jadi-korban-pelecehan-di-ruang-publik-kamu-nggak-sendirian.) Accessed July 8, 2020. 
- ["Mengenali Kekerasan Seksual – Yayasan Pulih."](http://yayasanpulih.org/2017/06/mengenali-kekerasan-seksual/.) Accessed July 8, 2020. ["Kekerasan Seksual - Komnas Perempuan."](https://www.komnasperempuan.go.id/file/pdf_file/Modul%20dan%20Pedoman/Kekerasan%20Seksual/15%20BTK%20KEKERASAN%20SEKSUAL.pdf.) Accessed July 8, 2020. 
- ["CATAHU - Komnas Perempuan."](https://www.komnasperempuan.go.id/file/pdf_file/2018/SIARAN%20PERS%202018/Lembar%20Fakta%20Catahu%207%20Maret%202018.pdf.) Accessed July 8, 2020. 
- ["Kementerian Pemberdayaan Perempuan dan Perlindungan ...."](https://bulelengkab.go.id/assets/instansikab/126/bankdata/statistik-gender-tematik-mengakhiri-kekerasan-terhadap-perempuan-dan-anak-di-indonesia-66.pdf.) Accessed July 8, 2020. 
- ["Kenapa Korban Kekerasan Seksual Enggan ... - ASUMSI."](https://www.asumsi.co/post/kenapa-korban-kekerasan-seksual-enggan-melaporkan-kasusnya.) Accessed July 8, 2020. 
- ["kekerasan seksual - MaPPI FHUI."](http://mappifhui.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/MaPPI-FHUI-kekerasan-seksual.pdf.) Accessed July 8, 2020. 

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Myths and Facts About Sexual Assault in 2020

Mitos dan Fakta Mengenai Kekerasan Seksual di Tahun 2020

Jakarta, 3 Juli 2020

Pada 30 Juni 2020, rapat koordinasi antara Badan Legislatif dengan pimpinan Komisi I sampai dengan IX Dewan Perwakilan Rakyat (DPR) menyepakati bahwa RUU Penghapusan Kekerasan Seksual (RUU P-KS) dicabut dari Program Legislasi Nasional (prolegnas) Prioritas 2020. Alasan yang mendasari keputusan ini adalah karena RUU P-KS dianggap sulit dibahas. Keputusan ini diambil setelah Komisi VIII membatalkan diri dari pengusul RUU P-KS. Komisi VIII menjanjikan RUU P-KS masuk ke dalam prolegnas prioritas 2021.

GERAK Perempuan mengecam keputusan ini. RUU P-KS merupakan upaya hukum untuk memberikan pemulihan dan melindungi korban kekerasan. Selain itu, RUU ini juga untuk memastikan agar korban tidak mendapatkan kekerasan berulang karena stigma dan sistem hukum yang tidak berpihak pada korban. Komnas Perempuan mencatat dalam Catatan Akhir Tahun (Catahu) 2020, terdapat 4.898 laporan kasus kekerasan seksual sepanjang tahun 2019. Catahu Komnas Perempuan merekam kenaikan kasus kekerasan seksual  hingga 792 persen atau hampir 8 kali lipat, selama 12 tahun sejak 2007. 

Pandemi COVID-19, dimana karantina mandiri banyak dilakukan di berbagai daerah, juga menyebabkan kenaikan angka kekerasan terhadap perempuan di ranah domestik. LBH APIK mencatat, umumnya sekitar 30 laporan kasus per bulan sebelum pandemi, meningkat menjadi ratarata ada 90 laporan kasus per bulan sejak Maret hingga Juni. Data ini menunjukkan peningkatan sebesar 300 persen atau 3 kali lipat daripada biasanya. Sebaliknya, pandemi digunakan alasan oleh DPR sebagai justifikasi untuk menarik RUU P-KS dari Prolegnas Prioritas 2020. RUU P-KS dianggap sulit dibahas di tengah pandemi, meskipun pembahasan belum dilakukan sejak ditetapkan menjadi Prolegnas Prioritas. Sebuah ironi, mengingat pembahasan perubahan UU Pertambangan dan Mineral Batubara dibahas dan disahkan di tengah-tengah pandemi. Sama halnya dengan pembahasan Omnibus Law atau RUU Cipta Kerja yang terus dikebut. Meski kedua produk perundang-undangan ini kami nilai tidak menguntungkan rakyat. Hal itu menegaskan bahwa DPR tidak serius menangani kekerasan seksual di Indonesia serta tidak menjalankan peran dan kewajiban untuk melindungi rakyat  dengan membiarkan korban kekerasan seksual  terus berjatuhan dan tidak mendapatkan keadilan.
  
Kami meyakini DPR telah bersikap sewenang-wenang terhadap proses demokrasi dan pemenuhan hak setiap warga negara Indonesia terutama korban kekerasan seksual atas pengakuan, jaminan, perlindungan, dan kepastian hukum yang adil (UUD 1945 pasal 28). Kami menyayangkan nihilnya transparansi dari DPR sejak proses pembahasan RUU Penghapusan Kekerasan Seksual hingga keputusan pencabutannya dari Prolegnas Prioritas 2020 diusulkan oleh Komisi VIII yang membidangi urusan perempuan dan sosial pada tanggal 30 Juni 2020; dan: 

Atas situasi keputusan Baleg DPR RI tersebut, GERAK Perempuan menyatakan sikap **MENOLAK KERAS keputusan DPR mencabut RUU Penghapusan Kekerasan Seksual dari Prolegnas Prioritas 2020 dengan alasan pembahasan sulit dilakukan di tengah pandemi.**
 
Untuk itu,  GERAK Perempuan menuntut: 
 
1. DPR segera menarik keputusan pencabutan RUU Penghapusan Kekerasan Seksual dari Prolegnas Prioritas 2020 dan membahas serta mengesahkannya menjadi Undang-undang;
2. DPR tidak menggunakan pandemi sebagai alasan untuk menihilkan data yang membuktikan urgensi dari RUU P-KS bagi seluruh warga negara Indonesia;
3. Seluruh jajaran pemerintahan dan instansi terkait seperti Kementerian Pemberdayaan Perempuan dan Perlindungan Anak serta Komisi Nasional Anti-Kekerasan terhadap Perempuan mendorong DPR untuk mengesahkan  RUU Penghapusan Kekerasan Seksual;  
4. DPR menjalankan mandat untuk membuat legislasi yang melindungi rakyat dengan memprioritaskan RUU P-KS, bukan untuk investor seperti RUU Cipta Kerja.

GERAK Perempuan mengajak masyarakat luas yang anti-kekerasan seksual dan mendukung pengesahan RUU P-KS untuk bersolidaritas:
 
1. Mengawal proses pembahasan RUU P-KS dengan melakukan aksi setiap hari selasa di depan gedung DPR RI  dan atau DPRD mulai pukul 15.00-16.30 hingga RUU P-KS diundangkan,
2. Membangun kolektif untuk saling menguatkan dan memajukan serta memberanikan diri dalam memperjuangkan hak, terutama hak-hak korban kekerasan seksual termasuk membagun sistem rujukan kolektif bagi korban kekerasan seksual di manapun berada.                                                          

**Kami yang bersikap,**
***GERAK Perempuan*** 

GERAK Perempuan adalah gerakan masyarakat sipil yang terdiri atas berbagai kelompok maupun individu dan dalam hal ini sikap GERAK Perempuan didukung: 

Aliansi Jurnalis Indepenen (AJI), Aliansi Satu Visi, API Kartini, Asia Justice and Rights (AJAR), Badan Eksekutif Mahasiswa (BEM) UI, BEM FH UI, BEM Jentera, FAMM Indonesia, Gender Talk, Gerakan Perempuan–UNJ, Gereja Komunitas Anugerah (GKA), Hollaback! Jakarta, HopeHelps UI, International NGO Forum on Indonesian Development (INFID), Jaringan Muda Setara, Kalyanamitra, Konfederasi Persatuan Buruh Indonesia (KPBI), Federasi Buruh Lintas Pabrik (FBLP), Konfederasi Serikat Nasional (KSN), Kongres Aliansi Serikat Buruh Indonesia (KASBI), Korps PMII Puteri (KOPRI) Jawa Barat, LBH Jakarta, Lingkar Studi Feminis Tangerang, Pamflet Generasi, perEMPUan, Perempuan Agora, Perempuan Mahardhika, Perkumpulan Lintas Feminis Jakarta (JFDG), PKBI, PurpleCode Collective, PUSKAGENSEKS UI, Rumah Faye, SEMAR UI, SGRC, SINDIKASI, Solidaritas Perempuan, Space UNJ, Sanggar Swara, Swara Saudari– Purwakarta, Bipolar Care Indonesia, Biro Hukum, Perempuan dan Anak - Negeriku Indonesia Jaya, CEDAW Working Group Indonesia (CWGI), Club Kajian Islam Salam, DPP, DPD, DPC, GERKATIN, Gerakan Peduli Disabiltas dan Lepra Indonesia, HIMP WANITA DISABILITAS IND (HWDI), HWDI Jambi, HWDI Kalsel, ICRP, Institute for Women's Empowerment (IWE), KePPaK Perempuan (Kelompok Peduli Penghapusan Tindak Kekerasan Terhadap Perempuan dan Anak), Koalisi Perempuan Indonesia, KontraS, Muslimah Reformis foundation, Perhimpunan Jiwa Sehat (PJS), Perkumpulan OHANA, Perkumpulan Pendidikan Pendampingan bagi Perempuan dan Masyarakat (PP3M), PGI, PGIW Jawa Barat, PPUA Disabilitas Kalsel, Rahima, Samahita, Sapda, Sentral Gerakan Buruh Nasional, SIGAB Indonesia, Suara Perempuan Bandung, Yayasan Ciqal, Yayasan Parinama Astha, Yayasan Peduli Sindroma Down Indonesia, dan Yayasan Penghapusan Kekerasan Terhadap Perempuan "Mitra Perempuan.”  

Narahubung: 
Nur Aini (0812-2980-8814), Dian Septi (0818-0409-5097), Lini Zurlia (linizurlia@gmail.com), Mutiara Ika (0822-1358-7565 / mutiara.ikapratiwi@gmail.com)

Download Dokumen : [Pernyataan Sikap Gerak Perempuan](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ZFJct3s2V8RVoaVZFEQTelYsAzUcLURn/view?usp=sharing)


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Pernyataan Sikap: Aliansi Gerakan Perempuan Anti-Kekerasan (GERAK Perempuan) “Menolak Pencabutan RUU Penghapusan Kekerasan Seksual dari Prolegnas Prioritas 2020”

**[Fayola Maulida](https://www.instagram.com/faymaulidaa/)**

“Children are our future,” they say. But throughout years, cases of child exploitation and child abuse are still occurring. The United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child (UNCRC), defines that a child is a person under 18 years of age. Every child has 4 fundamental rights that stick to them, which are: the right to live, to grow and develop, to get protection, and to participate. However, it is still often seen that child trafficking, abuse, and exploitation are still prevalent in society.

>  **Child trafficking and child exploitation are happening.** Never imagine that this sort of problem only happens in rural areas or places that are beyond your reach. Because it could happen right at this moment, somewhere near you.

“What is child trafficking? What is child exploitation?” Perhaps both questions came to your mind. Indeed, it requires some time to comprehend it thoroughly and figure out why we should care about these issues. Child exploitation and trafficking are both related. In short, not every child has got four of their fundamental rights fulfilled. Not every child has the chance to choose or have choices. There are children out there being sold and forced to do things that will result in a great trauma to produce advantages for other people in many aspects, economically, socially, or politically. The ‘usage' of children for personal benefits that violate their physical and mental health, also bringing severe damaging impacts towards their education and personal development is how child exploitation is defined. Don’t underestimate these cases, they  will leave a lifelong footprint along with children’s life. 

**One of the many ways a child can be exploited is in the form of  sexual exploitation.** UNICEF and WHO defines it as *“Any actual or attempted abuse of a position of vulnerability, power differences, or trust for sexual purposes, including but not limited to threatening, monetary, social or political profit from the sexual exploitation of others”.* This covers cases where a person or a certain amount of people are getting profit from a child that is being used for sexual purposes. Sexual exploitation cases are not only happening offline but also online. Cited from KPAI (Indonesian Commission for Child’s  Protection) from the year 2011-2016, there are 1809 cases of online child exploitation. Police data also stated that from 2016-2018 there are 1127 cases of sexual exploitation of children in which some parts of them are using digital media as their platform. According toECPAT Indonesia, there are 150 cases of child sexual exploitation in Indonesia with 28% of the reported cases made up from the act of child pornography.

Online child exploitation can be done through as sexting (exchange of sexual images or messages), grooming (seductive acts for sexual purposes), and streaming (online live stream of sexual abuse).

Child sexual exploitation has a long-term, seriously concerning impact on children’s mental and physical health, along with their individual development. Evidence has shown that sexual abuse can cause various problems such as self-harm, eating disorders, depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder. Sexual exploitation could happen to every child, yet perpetrators usually target ‘vulnerable’ children, for example, those who have trouble with their family, drugs or alcohol problems, and learning difficulties. Despite childhood being a golden period in human growth and development, abuse and exploitation will diminish children's opportunities to explore and express themselves. 

Rumah Faye is concerned about how child exploitation and trafficking cases have increased and stands as an organization that focuses on our vision to free Indonesian kids from trafficking, abuse, and exploitation with three fundamental programs which are: prevention, rescue, and recovery. Prevention is a program where Rumah Faye will expand the community’s awareness regarding child trafficking, exploitation, and sexual violence. Rescue is Rumah Faye’s program to save children from child trafficking, sexual abuse, and exploitation through numerous external partnerships. Last of all, recovery is a program where Rumah Faye will provide a safe haven, including counseling, education, and life skills, for victims of child trafficking, exploitation, and abuse. With the execution of these programs, we hope the numbers of child exploitation, abuse, and trafficking will decrease.

There are many things we can do to contribute to stop sexual exploitation issues:
- Educate yourself and make sure you understand the danger of child trafficking and abuse
- For parents, teach your child sex education, reproductive health, and safe internet usefrom a young age so they can understand and be protected
- Report to the authorities if you witness any child exploitation and abuse
- Use social media as a platform to increase people’s awareness of issues regarding child exploitation and abuse
- Donate to organizations that aim to stop child abuse. 

Remember that the matter of child exploitation isn't a thing that can be solved in a day. It takes effort, courage, and action. However, each and every progression we make to attempt to stop these problems will consistently be valued. In this way, let’s battle these issues together for the sake of Indonesian children!

Sources:
- Kemenpppa, 2019. Buku Panduan Terminologi Perlindungan Anak dari Eksploitasi oleh Kementerian Pemberdayaan Perempuan dan Perlindungan Anak. Jakarta: Kemenpppa.
- [Pace UK. 2020. The impact of child sexual exploitation.](https://paceuk.info/about-cse/the-impact-of-child-sexual-exploitation/)
- [The Children Society. 2020. What do you need to know about CSE.](https://www.childrenssociety.org.uk/what-we-do/helping-children/help-us-stop-child-sexual-exploitation-cse/what-do-you-need-know-about-cse)
- [The NSPCC. 2020. Child sexual exploitation.](https://www.nspcc.org.uk/what-is-child-abuse/types-of-abuse/child-sexual-exploitation/)

**[Fayola Maulida](https://www.instagram.com/faymaulidaa/)**

“Anak merupakan masa depan bangsa,” katanya. Namun faktanya, hal-hal terkait dengan eksploitasi anak dan kekerasan pada anak masih banyak terjadi. Menurut *The United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child (UNCRC)* anak adalah mereka yang umurnya dibawah 18 tahun. Setiap anak mempunyai 4 hak fundamental yang melekat pada diri mereka masing-masing yaitu hak untuk hidup, hak untuk tumbuh dan berkembang, hak untuk mendapat perlindungan, dan hak untuk berpartisipasi. Namun, acap kali terlihat di media bahwa perdagangan, kekerasan, dan eksploitasi anak masih banyak sekali terjadi di masyarakat.

> “Perdagangan anak, eksploitasi anak, itu semua terjadi. Jangan berpikir bahwa hal-hal tersebut hanya terjadi di pelosok negeri. Ini dapat terjadi di sekitarmu sekarang dan di detik ini.”

**“Perdagangan anak itu apa? Eksploitasi anak itu apa?”** Mungkin kedua pertanyaan ini terbesit di pikiran kita. Butuh waktu memang untuk sepenuhnya mengerti apa sebenarnya isu tersebut dan mengapa kita harus peduli. Eksploitasi dan perdagangan anak merupakan dua hal yang berkaitan erat. Singkatnya, tidak semua anak berada di dalam perlindungan dan keamanan yang layak. Tidak semua anak telah terpenuhi keempat hak dasarnya. Kemudian, tidak semua anak juga bisa mempunyai kesempatan untuk memilih atau kesempatan untuk mempunyai pilihan. Ada anak-anak yang diperdagangkan dan dipaksa untuk melakukan berbagai hal demi keuntungan bagi orang lain dalam bentuk ekonomi, sosial, maupun politik. Hal-hal tersebut tentu dapat memberikan trauma yang hebat bagi anak. Penggunaan anak demi keuntungan pribadi yang merugikan kesehatan fisik, mental, perkembangan dan edukasi mereka inilah yang disebut dengan eksploitasi anak. Jangan salah, tindakan-tindakan ini dapat memberikan pengaruh buruk jangka panjang dalam diri anak.

**Salah satu bentuk eksploitasi pada anak adalah eksploitasi seksual.** Eksploitasi seksual pada anak dapat diartikan sebagai penggunaan anak untuk tujuan seksual untuk mendapat keuntungan bagi orang lain. UNICEF dan WHO mendefinisikannya sebagai *‘setiap penyalahgunaan aktual atau percobaan atas posisi kerentanan, perbedaan kekuasaan, atau kepercayaan untuk tujuan seksual, termasuk tetapi tidak terbatas pada mengancam, mengambil untung secara moneter, sosial atau politik dari eksploitasi seksual orang lain’.* Kasus eksploitasi seksual ini tidak hanya terjadi dalam dunia luring (*offline*) namun juga daring (*online*). Dilansir dari KPAI, pada tahun 2011-2016 terdapat 1809 kasus eksploitasi anak *online*. Data kepolisian juga menyatakan dari tahun 2016-2018 terdapat 1127 kasus eksploitasi seksual pada anak yang diantaranya juga menggunakan sarana media digital. Dilansir dari ECPAT Indonesia, terdapat 150 kasus eksploitasi seksual pada anak di Indonesia pada tahun 2018, yang 28% diantaranya merupakan kasus pornografi anak.

Kasus eksploitasi anak online ini dapat berbentuk *sexting*(pertukaran pesan atau gambar seksual), *grooming* (bujuk rayu untuk tujuan seksual), dan *streaming* (kekerasan seksual anak yang disiarkan secara langsung melalui internet).

Eksploitasi seksual pada anak berakibat panjang dan memberikan dampak yang serius khususnya bagi kesehatan mental anak-anak, kesehatan fisik, dan perkembangan diri. Bukti menunjukkan bahwa eksploitasi seksual dapat menyebabkan berbagai masalah jangka panjang termasuk melukai diri sendiri (*self-harm*), gangguan makan, depresi, dan gangguan stres *post-trauma*. Eksploitasi seksual dapat terjadi pada anak manapun, tetapi pelaku sering menargetkan anak yang ‘rentan’, misalnya anak-anak yang memiliki kehidupan keluarga yang sulit, NAPZA, masalah alkohol, atau masalah belajar. Kekerasan dan eksploitasi pada anak juga akan mengurangi kesempatan mereka untuk bereksplorasi dan mengekspresikan diri. Padahal, masa kanak-kanak merupakan periode emas dalam tumbuh kembang seorang manusia.

Rumah Faye sadar akan maraknya kasus-kasus eksploitasi dan perdagangan anak. Oleh karena itu, kami berdiri sebagai organisasi yang mempunyai visi untuk membebaskan anak Indonesia dari perdagangan, kekerasan, dan eksploitasi. Upaya tersebut diwujudkan dengan penyelenggaraan 3 program utama kami yaitu pencegahan, pembebasan, dan pemulihan. Pencegahan adalah program dimana Rumah Faye akan memberikan sosialisasi langsung kepada masyarakat luas, khususnya anak-anak, terkait kesadaran akan isu perdagangan anak dan kekerasan seksual. Pembebasan merupakan program Rumah Faye untuk mengeluarkan anak korban perdagangan dan eksploitasi seksual dari kekerasan yang menjerat mereka. Kemudian, program pemulihan bertujuan untuk menyediakan tempat yang aman bagi anak. Termasuk di dalamnya, menyediakan layanan konseling, pendidikan, dan keterampilan hidup untuk para korban perdagangan anak dan anak-anak korban kekerasan seksual. Dengan dilaksanakannya program-program tersebut, diharapkan angka eksploitasi, kekerasan, dan perdagangan anak dapat menurun.

Langkah kepedulian selalu dapat dimulai dari diri kita sendiri. Ada beberapa cara yang dapat kita lakukan untuk turut serta menghentikan maraknya isu eksploitasi seksual:

- Pelajari dan pahami bahayanya perdagangan, eksploitasi, dan kekerasan seksual pada anak.
- Bagi orang tua, ajarkan kepada anak soal pendidikan seks, kesehatan reproduksi, dan keamanan berinternet sejak dini agar mereka mengerti, tahu segala konsekuensi, dan dapat terlindungi.
- Laporkan ke pihak berwajib bila terjadi eksploitasi dan kekerasan pada anak.
- Jadikan media sosial sebagai wadah untuk meningkatkan kesadaran publik terhadap masalah eksploitasi dan kekerasan pada anak.
- Memberi donasi ke lembaga-lembaga yang mempunyai konsentrasi pada upaya penghentian kekerasan anak.

Perlu diingat bahwa kekerasan pada anak, eksploitasi seksual, perdagangan anak bukanlah hal-hal yang dapat musnah dalam sehari. Butuh kepedulian, keberanian, dan aksi. Setiap langkah kecil yang kita lakukan untuk berusaha menghentikan masalah ini perlu diapresiasi. Maka dari itu, mari kita bersama-sama berjuang demi anak negeri.

Sumber:
- Kemenpppa, 2019. Buku Panduan Terminologi Perlindungan Anak dari Eksploitasi oleh Kementerian Pemberdayaan Perempuan dan Perlindungan Anak. Jakarta: Kemenpppa.
- [Pace UK. 2020. The impact of child sexual exploitation.](https://paceuk.info/about-cse/the-impact-of-child-sexual-exploitation/)
- [The Children Society. 2020. What do you need to know about CSE.](https://www.childrenssociety.org.uk/what-we-do/helping-children/help-us-stop-child-sexual-exploitation-cse/what-do-you-need-know-about-cse)
- [The NSPCC. 2020. Child sexual exploitation.](https://www.nspcc.org.uk/what-is-child-abuse/types-of-abuse/child-sexual-exploitation/)

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