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Meningkatkan kesadaran perdagangan anak dan kekerasan seksual terhadap anak-anak.

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Rescuing children from trafficking, exploitation, and sexual abuse. 

Menyelamatkan korban perdagangan anak dan anak-anak dari kekerasan seksual.

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Providing a safe haven, including counseling, education, and life skills, for victims of child trafficking, exploitation, and abuse. 

Menyediakan tempat yang aman, termasuk konseling, pendidikan, dan keterampilan hidup, untuk para korban perdagangan anak dan anak-anak korban kekerasan seksual.

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> A UN campaign called the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence has a goal to spread awareness as they seek to make a change in the world and make things right. Violence against women and girls (VAWG) has gradually increased over the years as it escalates around the world. This call for action hopes to change that. 

**What is Gender-based Violence (GBV)?**


Gender-based violence is violence that is directed to an individual’s gender identity. This may include “physical, sexual, verbal, emotional, and psychological abuse, threats, coercion, and economic or education deprivation” (Women for Women International.org). 

**What is the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence?**


The 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence is an international campaign that takes place every year starting from the 25th of November (International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women) to 10th of December (International Human Rights Day). This campaign originated from the first Women’s Global Leadership Institute in 1991 and ever since then, the event has been conducted every year by the Center for Women’s Global Leadership (CWLG). “Under the leadership of the UN Secretary-General, Antonio Guterres, the United Nations Secretary-general’s UNiTE by 2030 to End Violence Against Women campaign (UNiTE Campaign)” (UN Women.org). From the year of their launch in 2008, they continue to strive over the years for their goal as they call youths, governments, organizations, the media, private sectors, and the entire UN community to join forces. 

**Background History about the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence:**


Patria, Minerva, and Maria Teresa Mirabal are three sisters who are political activists who frequently spoke up about the hardships when in rule by Trujillo dictatorship in the Dominican Republic. He was known for his brutal and ruthless ways of leading by tolerating no free speech and no free press. On 25 November 1960, the three sisters were killed “and dumped at the bottom of the cliff by Turjillo’s secret police” (International Women’s Development Agency.org). The Mirabal sisters were symbolized as feminist resistance and the 25th of November is known as the International Day for Elimination of Violence against Women in Latin America since 1980 (later in 1999, this declared holiday was noticed by the UN). In June 1991, CWLG declared a new campaign called what we now know as the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence. Ever since then, every year people around the world would raise awareness about “discriminatory attitudes and call for improved laws and services to end violence against women for good” (International Women’s Development Agency.org). 

**Why is it important?**


For over centuries, VAWG has been so normalized in our society until now. Growing up, many young girls around the world were controlled and judged based on the eyes of men and society itself. The purpose for this activism is to give the spotlight or the attention to people that have to go through any type of violence and also to educate others. Forms of violence consist of sexual harassment, abuse, exploitation, drug-fascilitated assault, and more. It creates a public notice to everyone in the world and to help victims that have been silenced and have not been given justice, a chance to share their story. 

**2020 Context:**


In March 11, 2020 the World Health Organization (WHO) declared the COVID-19 outbreak, a global pandemic. Due to this pandemic, people were told to stay home and quarantine themselves to avoid gatherings of big groups. Although for some, it may seem lockdown isn’t as bad. However, according to the alarming rise of sexual violence across the globe says otherwise. There are key risk factors for VAWG which includes “food shortages, unemployment, economic insecurity, school closures, massive migration flows, and the threat of civil unrest” (UN Women.org). You may be wondering, how does these factors impact the increased amount of VAWG? Well, believe it or not, it does. Different forms of violence such as psychological, physical, sexual, and economic forms of domestic violence such as being low on food and confined living conditions have a great impact. Financial struggles and school closures intensify the risks of violence towards girls such as trafficking, assault, child marriage, and harrassment. In addition, the pandemic has closed transportation and support services such as SOS hotline, rape cilinical management, shelters, sexual and reproductive health services which creates difficulties for survivors to access support (such as justice, medical aid, health care, social protection, and more). A lot of these shelters and/or services are facing difficulties to obtain food, maintain hygiene, and specific resources for different cases. Therefore, many victims assume that they are closed and end up not seeking for help which dangers themselves even more. 

In the context of 2020 alongside the global pandemic, the UNiTE outlined their engagement strategy for their advocacy focus which are: Fund, Prevent, Respond and Collect. 

Here is a little summary for what each focus means: 

Fund: 
- More efficient, flexible, and available funding process for women’s rights organizations of COVID and Gender-based Violence (GBV)
- Prioritize funding packages of essential services for GBV
- Prioritize funding for GBV prevention 

Prevent:
- Declare that GBV will not be tolerated with a realistic and detailed plan in place
- “Launch a COVID-19 behaviour change social mobilization campaign”

Respond:
- Prioritize services to survivors of GBV as it maintain essential during the COVID-19 lockdown and also ensuring adequate criminal justice response
- Ensure minimum essential services maintained

Collect:
- “Collect data for improvements of GBV services and programmes (always ensuring survivor-centered and ethical safety standards)”


**What can you do to help?**


It is always important to help spread awareness about VAWG and GBV no matter what. Here are 4 things (of course there are more) YOU can do to help and participate both within the 16 days of activism and in your daily life:

1. Educate yourself: Education is the first step to activism and prevention. Read stories of survivors or research about GBV and VAWG through blogs or watch or any kind of resources you like to educate yourself with.
2. Start dialogues: An inspirational individual named Faye Simanjutak (wink wink) taught me that the best step after education is to start dialogues. Talk to your friends, family and the people around you all about it and get them interested!
3. Buy from women entrepreneurs: According to UN Women, empowering women economically keeps women from being entirely dependent on their partners and also helps survivors rebuild their lives.”
4. Learn the language: Break and fight gender stereotypes. Place both women and men on an equal level where there is fairness and equality among everyone. 

To conclude, the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence is an event that occurs every year from the 25th of November through the 10th of December. It is where people from around the world give their attention to the multiple forms of violence a victim has to go through. With the pandemic, things are getting a lot more tough and difficult for victims to reach out to support services. We might not be able to remove sexual violence in a snap, but by making contributions together, we can make the world a better place for an individual one step at a time.

Author : [@keneishacm](https://www.instagram.com/keneishacm/)
Editor : [Mellysa Anastasya](https://www.instagram.com/mbatasa/)
Translator [Faye Simanjuntak](https://www.instagram.com/chocodaawg/)


Bibliography:


[“16 Days of Activism Against Gender Violence.” ](www.who.int/violence_injury_prevention/violence/global_campaign/16_days/en/index2.html) World Health Organization, World Health Organization,22 Nov. 2012

[“16 Days of Activism against Gender-Based Violence: What We Do: Ending Violence against Women and Girls: Take Action.”](www.unwomen.org/en/what-we-do/ending-violence-against-women/take-action/16-days-of-activism) UN Women.

[“16 Ways, 16 Days: Your Guide to Ending Violence against Women.”](www.unwomen.org/en/news/stories/2018/11/feature-guide-to-ending-violence-against-women) UN Women.

[“Orange the World: 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence.”](www.euro.who.int/en/health-topics/health-determinants/gender/news/news/2019/11/orange-the-world-16-days-of-activism-against-gender-based-violence) World Health Organization, World Health Organization, 22 Nov. 2019. 

[“Series: What Does That Mean? Gender-Based Violence: Women for Women International.”](www.womenforwomen.org/blogs/series-what-does-mean-gender-based-violence) TWICE the Impact for Women Survivors of War.

[“Three Things You Can Do About Gender-Based Violence: Women for Women International.”](www.womenforwomen.org/blogs/three-things-you-can-do-about-gender-based-violence) TWICE the Impact for Women Survivors of War.

[“What Are the 16 Days of Activism?”](iwda.org.au/what-are-the-16-days-of-activism-and-why-should-you-care/) IWDA, 16 Nov. 2020.

> A UN campaign called the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence has a goal to spread awareness as they seek to make a change in the world and make things right. Violence against women and girls (VAWG) has gradually increased over the years as it escalates around the world. This call for action hopes to change that. 

**What is Gender-based Violence (GBV)?**


Gender-based violence is violence that is directed to an individual’s gender identity. This may include “physical, sexual, verbal, emotional, and psychological abuse, threats, coercion, and economic or education deprivation” (Women for Women International.org). 

**What is the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence?**


The 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence is an international campaign that takes place every year starting from the 25th of November (International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women) to 10th of December (International Human Rights Day). This campaign originated from the first Women’s Global Leadership Institute in 1991 and ever since then, the event has been conducted every year by the Center for Women’s Global Leadership (CWLG). “Under the leadership of the UN Secretary-General, Antonio Guterres, the United Nations Secretary-general’s UNiTE by 2030 to End Violence Against Women campaign (UNiTE Campaign)” (UN Women.org). From the year of their launch in 2008, they continue to strive over the years for their goal as they call youths, governments, organizations, the media, private sectors, and the entire UN community to join forces. 

**Background History about the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence:**


Patria, Minerva, and Maria Teresa Mirabal are three sisters who are political activists who frequently spoke up about the hardships when in rule by Trujillo dictatorship in the Dominican Republic. He was known for his brutal and ruthless ways of leading by tolerating no free speech and no free press. On 25 November 1960, the three sisters were killed “and dumped at the bottom of the cliff by Turjillo’s secret police” (International Women’s Development Agency.org). The Mirabal sisters were symbolized as feminist resistance and the 25th of November is known as the International Day for Elimination of Violence against Women in Latin America since 1980 (later in 1999, this declared holiday was noticed by the UN). In June 1991, CWLG declared a new campaign called what we now know as the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence. Ever since then, every year people around the world would raise awareness about “discriminatory attitudes and call for improved laws and services to end violence against women for good” (International Women’s Development Agency.org). 

**Why is it important?**


For over centuries, VAWG has been so normalized in our society until now. Growing up, many young girls around the world were controlled and judged based on the eyes of men and society itself. The purpose for this activism is to give the spotlight or the attention to people that have to go through any type of violence and also to educate others. Forms of violence consist of sexual harassment, abuse, exploitation, drug-fascilitated assault, and more. It creates a public notice to everyone in the world and to help victims that have been silenced and have not been given justice, a chance to share their story. 

**2020 Context:**


In March 11, 2020 the World Health Organization (WHO) declared the COVID-19 outbreak, a global pandemic. Due to this pandemic, people were told to stay home and quarantine themselves to avoid gatherings of big groups. Although for some, it may seem lockdown isn’t as bad. However, according to the alarming rise of sexual violence across the globe says otherwise. There are key risk factors for VAWG which includes “food shortages, unemployment, economic insecurity, school closures, massive migration flows, and the threat of civil unrest” (UN Women.org). You may be wondering, how does these factors impact the increased amount of VAWG? Well, believe it or not, it does. Different forms of violence such as psychological, physical, sexual, and economic forms of domestic violence such as being low on food and confined living conditions have a great impact. Financial struggles and school closures intensify the risks of violence towards girls such as trafficking, assault, child marriage, and harrassment. In addition, the pandemic has closed transportation and support services such as SOS hotline, rape cilinical management, shelters, sexual and reproductive health services which creates difficulties for survivors to access support (such as justice, medical aid, health care, social protection, and more). A lot of these shelters and/or services are facing difficulties to obtain food, maintain hygiene, and specific resources for different cases. Therefore, many victims assume that they are closed and end up not seeking for help which dangers themselves even more. 

In the context of 2020 alongside the global pandemic, the UNiTE outlined their engagement strategy for their advocacy focus which are: Fund, Prevent, Respond and Collect. 

Here is a little summary for what each focus means: 

Fund: 
- More efficient, flexible, and available funding process for women’s rights organizations of COVID and Gender-based Violence (GBV)
- Prioritize funding packages of essential services for GBV
- Prioritize funding for GBV prevention 

Prevent:
- Declare that GBV will not be tolerated with a realistic and detailed plan in place
- “Launch a COVID-19 behaviour change social mobilization campaign”

Respond:
- Prioritize services to survivors of GBV as it maintain essential during the COVID-19 lockdown and also ensuring adequate criminal justice response
- Ensure minimum essential services maintained

Collect:
- “Collect data for improvements of GBV services and programmes (always ensuring survivor-centered and ethical safety standards)”


**What can you do to help?**


It is always important to help spread awareness about VAWG and GBV no matter what. Here are 4 things (of course there are more) YOU can do to help and participate both within the 16 days of activism and in your daily life:

1. Educate yourself: Education is the first step to activism and prevention. Read stories of survivors or research about GBV and VAWG through blogs or watch or any kind of resources you like to educate yourself with.
2. Start dialogues: An inspirational individual named Faye Simanjutak (wink wink) taught me that the best step after education is to start dialogues. Talk to your friends, family and the people around you all about it and get them interested!
3. Buy from women entrepreneurs: According to UN Women, empowering women economically keeps women from being entirely dependent on their partners and also helps survivors rebuild their lives.”
4. Learn the language: Break and fight gender stereotypes. Place both women and men on an equal level where there is fairness and equality among everyone. 

To conclude, the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence is an event that occurs every year from the 25th of November through the 10th of December. It is where people from around the world give their attention to the multiple forms of violence a victim has to go through. With the pandemic, things are getting a lot more tough and difficult for victims to reach out to support services. We might not be able to remove sexual violence in a snap, but by making contributions together, we can make the world a better place for an individual one step at a time.

Author : [@keneishacm](https://www.instagram.com/keneishacm/)
Editor : [Mellysa Anastasya](https://www.instagram.com/mbatasa/)
Translator [Faye Simanjuntak](https://www.instagram.com/chocodaawg/)


Bibliography:


[“16 Days of Activism Against Gender Violence.” ](www.who.int/violence_injury_prevention/violence/global_campaign/16_days/en/index2.html) World Health Organization, World Health Organization,22 Nov. 2012
[“16 Days of Activism against Gender-Based Violence: What We Do: Ending Violence against Women and Girls: Take Action.”](www.unwomen.org/en/what-we-do/ending-violence-against-women/take-action/16-days-of-activism) UN Women.
[“16 Ways, 16 Days: Your Guide to Ending Violence against Women.”](www.unwomen.org/en/news/stories/2018/11/feature-guide-to-ending-violence-against-women) UN Women.
[“Orange the World: 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence.”](www.euro.who.int/en/health-topics/health-determinants/gender/news/news/2019/11/orange-the-world-16-days-of-activism-against-gender-based-violence) World Health Organization, World Health Organization, 22 Nov. 2019. 
[“Series: What Does That Mean? Gender-Based Violence: Women for Women International.”](www.womenforwomen.org/blogs/series-what-does-mean-gender-based-violence) TWICE the Impact for Women Survivors of War.
[“Three Things You Can Do About Gender-Based Violence: Women for Women International.”](www.womenforwomen.org/blogs/three-things-you-can-do-about-gender-based-violence) TWICE the Impact for Women Survivors of War.
[“What Are the 16 Days of Activism?”](iwda.org.au/what-are-the-16-days-of-activism-and-why-should-you-care/) IWDA, 16 Nov. 2020.

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In greeting the COVID-19 pandemic, Indonesia began instituting numerous measures to prevent further spreading of the virus. Lockdowns, quarantines, and travel restrictions were all put into place within days of the first case being announced. The travel restrictions, at first glance, should have decreased the numbers of trafficking and exploitation.

Traffickers, however, adapt quickly. Perpetrators of trafficking, exploitation, and abuse commonly utilize less-than-ideal socio-economic situations in order to trap targets. The pandemic further exacerbated the precarious socio-economic position of many individuals, who became increasingly vulnerable to crimes of exploitation. Unfortunately, the pandemic also meant decreased accessibility to resources that could support victims. Cases of online sexual exploitation began to crop up faster than we could handle, in which the perpetrators were commonly the people closest to the victims - mothers, fathers, uncles. Our government was distinctly unprepared to respond to the increase of online exploitation. In the same way, nonprofits like ourselves were overwhelmed by the sudden influx of victims into our safehouse - in the past few months, Rumah Faye has taken on a higher concentration of girls into the safehouse in comparison to any point in time since 2016. 

With the increase of the number of cases, there has been a troubling increase in severity as well. For victims stuck in the same homes as their abuser, a majority endured increased violence due to the feelings of insecurity and frustration that permeated the walls of their homes. Furthermore, lack of access to healthcare has meant that wounds go untreated. Higher rates of depression and anxiety are found in our kids as a result of prolonged and uninterrupted abuse. 

I worry for numbers on trafficking as the measures to combat COVID-19 begin to recede. With higher unemployment rates, many groups are far more vulnerable to trafficking and forced labour. Some are unaware of the risks. Others are, but feel they have no other option. In all honesty, I almost could not bring myself to celebrate this 7th birthday - what is there, after all, to celebrate?

Yet in my many drafts of writing this reflection, I was brought back to our girls in the safehouse.

When the COVID-19 pandemic began in Indonesia early this year, I was in Batam. I had gotten up from the mattress on the floor at 6AM, haphazardly made the bed, and walked out to the little garden where my kids grew their fruits and vegetables. Across the little garden, an arm stretched itself straight into the cool air, waving me over. The arm belongs to L, who yells that breakfast is rice and fried catfish with kangkung - your favourite!

I find myself settling into a circle (of sorts) with six people. Next to me sits R, who wordlessly shoves a half-finished crochet piece into my lap. I’ll help you finish it, she says. E comes out of her room then, a lumpy piece of pottery in her hand. Look at this one! she crows, I bet Kak Faye made it. She’s right, it is mine, but I vigorously shake my head in denial as the other girls laugh. 

There is so much here. So much love and humour and fight that I’m desperately trying to stuff into these simple letters of the alphabet. So much character. I can’t tell you how old they are, or what their names are, or even their real initials. I can’t tell you where they’re from or the horrors they’ve pushed through. Not because I forget (in this line of work, we never forget), but because doing so would put them in danger.

Despite what I can’t tell you, I can tell you about growth. Our girls come into the safehouse with hearts so heavy I cannot even begin to describe it. There’s so much fear, in the beginning. Fear of others, of trying, of failing. There are moments where we feel helpless, unable to do anything more. Somehow, a light shines through. Sometimes it’s a moment - a final piece of pottery, a completed crochet bag, an A on a math test. Other times, it’s gradual - internal growth along with regaining body weight after years of malnutrition, laughter that becomes louder and louder until the walls can’t hold it in. 

Over the past seven years, we’ve lost so much. We’ve hurt. I can’t talk about them in-depth right now, but I can only say that I know, too well, how things can feel hopeless. 

As I’ve lost, however, I’ve gained in other ways. I’ve learnt from my kids the absolute, all-encompassing power of courage seeded in love. I’ve seen their ability to overcome, to flourish, to persist when all (and I mean all) the odds were against them. 

Sitting in the circle that morning, I remember feeling so uniquely overwhelmed. I don’t know why - nobody said anything, nobody even really did anything out of the ordinary - but something in that moment made me feel so incredibly comfortable. Comforted. Because these were kids, our kids, who we’d seen grow so much, so well, and I overflowed with pride. With gratefulness. 

Today, Rumah Faye turns seven (!!!!!!) years old. When I tell you I never dreamt of this, I’m not exaggerating - I never meant to establish a non-profit organization, much less establish a safehouse. I was an 11-year-old kid with the simple idea that change could only be made through grassroots-based movement. It was simple: in order to solve an issue, any issue, the most vulnerable population had to be directly involved. In my case, children as a contributing member of the child protection framework. 

Since then, we’ve provided 18 scholarships, helped the recovery of 110 girls, and overseen the delivery of five babies. During the COVID-19 pandemic, with the support of all our incredible partners, we’ve been able to provide for over 1000 of our families and their surrounding communities. 

There are so many people to thank, but at the heart of it is my team, both past and present. Mbak Dewi, Kak Tika, Kak Lina, Kak Rista, Kak Tiwi, Kak Irna, Pak Nanang, Mbak Nur, Pak Cipri, Bu Siti, Bude, Kak Tasya, Mbak Retno, and Kak Imam - thank you. For the team in the safehouse, who tirelessly work with our girls, despite all the harm and failures they may face, I thank God for you every single hour of the day. To the team in Jakarta, who extend themselves to do the absolute best for our communities, I thank you. To my incredible volunteers, Sahabat Faye, your dedication never fails to astound me. For your support and dedication, despite the heaviness that you all face. Rumah Faye wouldn’t be the same without each of you. Most of all, to my family who supported me - thank you. My Mom, especially, who believed in me and inspired me. 

Seven years haven’t flown by. I’ve felt the years trickle past, as we face hardship after hardship, loss after loss. With it, though, has grown an immeasurable appreciation for those beside me. Those who’ve shown me how to choose courage. 

Seven years feels hard to celebrate, but I’ve got to welcome it the way my kids have taught me: with courage, seeded in love.

Love,

[Faye Simanjuntak](https://www.instagram.com/chocodaawg/)
 
Founder of Rumah Faye

Pada awal pandemi COVID-19, Indonesia mulai melaksanakan berbagai macam protokol untuk mencegah penyebaran virus tersebut. *Lockdown,* karantina, dan PSBB diberlakukan secara langsung setelah pengumuman kasus pertama di Jakarta. Protokol-protokol tersebut, sepenglihatan awal, mestinya bisa mengurangi terjadinya kasus perdagangan dan eksploitasi.
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Namun, pelaku TPPO (Tindak Pidana Perdagangan Orang) beradaptasi dengan cepat. Para pelaku umumnya memanfaatkan situasi sosio-ekonomik yang kurang ideal untuk menjebak sasaran mereka. Selama pandemi ini, kami melihat bahwa posisi sosio-ekonomik banyak individu memburuk, dan membuat mereka semakin rentan terhadap kejahatan eksploitasi. Lebih parahnya, pandemi juga menyebabkan penurunan aksesibilitas ke fasilitas yang dapat melayani korban. Kasus eksploitasi seksual daring (*online*) mulai bermunculan lebih cepat dari yang bisa kami tangani, dimana pelaku pada umumnya adalah orang-orang terdekat korban. Pemerintah tidak siap untuk menangani peningkatan eksploitasi *online*. Organisasi nirlaba seperti kami juga kewalahan oleh angka korban yang masuk ke rumah aman. Dalam beberapa bulan terakhir, Rumah Faye telah melihat pengajuan kasus yang jauh meningkat jika dibandingkan dengan tahun-tahun sebelumnya.

Dengan meningkatnya jumlah kasus, telah juga terjadi peningkatan keparahan kasus. Untuk para korban yang terjebak di rumah dengan pelaku kekerasan, mayoritas mengalami peningkatan kekerasan karena perasaan tidak aman dan frustasi dari pelaku. Selain itu, kurangnya akses pelayanan kesehatan berarti bahwa banyak luka tidak dapat diobati. Tingkat depresi dan kecemasan yang lebih tinggi juga ditemukan pada anak-anak kita sebagai akibat dari pelecehan yang berkepanjangan dan tidak terputus.

Aku juga mengkhawatirkan peningkatan angka perdagangan manusia setelah COVID-19 mulai surut. Dengan tingkat pengangguran yang lebih tinggi, banyak kelompok menjadi jauh lebih rentan terhadap perdagangan dan eksploitasi. Beberapa tidak menyadari risikonya. Lainnya sadar, tetapi merasa tidak punya pilihan lain. Sejujurnya, aku hampir merasa tidak perlu untuk merayakan ulang tahun Rumah Faye  ke-7 ini. Apa yang bisa dirayakan?

Namun dalam banyak draf yang aku tulis untuk refleksi ini, aku dibawa kembali kepada anak-anak.

Saat pandemi COVID-19 mulai di Indonesia pada awal tahun ini, aku berada di Batam. Aku bangun dan beranjak dari kasur jam 6 pagi,  merapikan tempat tidur, dan berjalan ke taman kecil dimana anak-anak menanam buah-buahan dan sayuran. Di seberang taman kecil, sebuah tangan terulur ke atas, dan melambai padaku. Tangan itu milik L, yang berteriak bahwa sarapan adalah pecel lele dengan kangkung - kesukaanmu!

Dengan piringku, aku duduk di sebuah lingkaran dengan enam orang. Di sampingku duduk R, yang tanpa berkata-kata mendorong potongan rajutan setengah jadi ke pangkuanku. *Nanti ku bantuin ampe selesai, Kak,*  katanya. Kemudian, E keluar dari kamarnya, dengan mangkok jelek di tangannya. *Eh, lihat yang ini!* dia cekikikan, *pasti ini buatan Kak Faye!* Dia benar, itu milikku, tapi aku menggelengkan kepala dengan keras sambil anak-anak lainnya tertawa.

Banyak hal ada dan terjadi di sini. Penuh dengan kasih, tawa, cekcok, dan karakter yang susah payah aku tuangkan ke dalam huruf-huruf alfabet sederhana ini. Aku tidak bisa memberitahu kalian berapa usia mereka, siapa nama mereka, atau bahkan inisial asli mereka. Aku tidak dapat memberitahu kalian dari mana mereka berasal atau trauma yang pernah mereka alami. Bukan karena aku lupa (dalam pekerjaan ini, kami tidak pernah lupa), tetapi karena melakukan hal tersebut akan membahayakan mereka.

Di lain sisi, aku dapat bercerita tentang perkembangan. Anak-anak perempuan masuk ke rumah aman dengan hati yang begitu berat sampai aku tidak bisa mendeskripsikannya. Ada begitu banyak ketakutan, pada awalnya. Takut pada orang lain, takut mencoba, takut gagal. Ada saat-saat dimana kami merasa tidak berdaya dan tidak dapat berbuat apa-apa lagi. Tetapi, entah bagaimana, cahaya terus bersinar. Terkadang, itu terjadi pada hal sederhana sehari-hari - tembikar yang sudah jadi, tas rajutan yang sudah lengkap, nilai A dalam ujian matematika. Di lain waktu, terjadi secara pelan tapi pasti - pertumbuhan internal pribadi tiap anak, seiring dengan bertambahnya berat badan setelah bertahun-tahun kekurangan gizi, tawa yang semakin keras membahana dan tidak lagi tertahan-tahan.

Selama tujuh tahun terakhir, kami telah kehilangan banyak hal. Kami terluka. Aku tidak dapat membicarakannya secara mendalam sekarang, hanya bisa mengatakan bahwa aku tahu betul apa itu rasanya bekerja tanpa harapan. Namun, dalam kehilangan ini, aku juga belajar dari anak-anak tentang keberanian absolut yang ditanamkan dalam rasa kasih dan sayang. Aku telah melihat kemampuan mereka untuk terus bertumbuh, berkembang, dan bertahan ketika semua pihak di dunia seakan-akan melawan mereka.

Saat duduk di lingkaran bersama anak-anak pagi itu, aku ingat merasa sangat senang. Aku tidak tahu kenapa - padahal tidak ada yang mengatakan apa-apa, bahkan tidak ada yang melakukan sesuatu yang menghibur - tetapi suatu hal pada saat itu membuat aku merasa sangat nyaman. Karena ini adalah anak-anak yang sudah tumbuh dan berkembang, dan hati saya seakan-akan meluap dengan rasa bangga. Dengan rasa syukur.

Hari ini, Rumah Faye berusia tujuh (!!!!!!) tahun. Aku tidak pernah bermaksud mendirikan organisasi nonprofit, apalagi sampai mendirikan rumah aman. Aku hanya anak berusia 11 tahun dengan kepercayaan bahwa perubahan hanya dapat dilakukan melalui gerakan berbasis akar rumput. Sederhana saja: untuk menyelesaikan suatu masalah, masalah apapun, kelompok yang paling rentan mesti dilibatkan secara langsung. Anak-anak adalah anggota yang berkontribusi dalam kerangka perlindungan anak.

Sejak itu, kami telah memberikan 18 beasiswa, membantu pemulihan 110 anak perempuan dan perempuan dewasa, serta mendampingi persalinan lima bayi. Selama pandemi COVID-19, dengan dukungan dari semua mitra kami yang luar biasa, kami dapat membantu lebih dari 1000 keluarga di komunitas dan warga sekitarnya.

Ada begitu banyak orang yang kuanggap mendorong Rumah Faye untuk menjadi seperti ini, tetapi yang terpenting  adalah timku, dari 2013 sampai sekarang. Mbak Dewi, Kak Tika, Kak Lina, Kak Rista, Kak Tiwi, Kak Irna, Pak Nanang, Mbak Nur, Pak Cipri, Bu Siti, Bude, Kak Tasya, Mbak Retno, dan Kak Imam - terima kasih. Untuk tim di rumah aman, yang tanpa lelah bekerja dengan anak-anak, aku berterima kasih kepada Tuhan setiap hari untuk dedikasi kalian. Untuk tim di Jakarta, yang selalu berupaya melakukan yang terbaik untuk mitra komunitas, aku berterima kasih sebanyak-banyaknya. Kepada para Sahabat Faye, terima kasih yang tulus untuk dedikasi kakak-kakak kepada isu yang kita perjuangkan. Terlepas dari beban berat yang tim hadapi, kalian terus menjadi inspirasiku untuk bekerja keras. Tidak kalah penting, untuk keluarga yang selalu mendukung Rumah Faye- terima kasih. Terutama Mama, yang selalu percaya padaku dan selalu menginspirasi.

Tujuh tahun sudah berlalu. Aku meresapi setiap tahun yang kami lewati - saat menghadapi kesulitan demi kesulitan, saat menerima kehilangan demi kehilangan. Karena itu semua, aku juga merasakan apresiasi yang tak terukur untuk orang-orang di sampingku. Mereka yang mengajariku caranya untuk selalu berani.

Saat ini, hari jadi yang ke tujuh terasa sulit untuk dirayakan, tetapi aku harus menyambutnya seperti yang diajarkan anak-anak kepadaku: dengan keberanian yang dibalut dalam rasa kasih dan sayang.

Salam Hangat,

[Faye Simanjuntak](https://www.instagram.com/chocodaawg/)

Pendiri Rumah Faye


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Reflection: 7 Years of Rumah Faye Journey

Refleksi:  7 Tahun Perjalanan Rumah Faye

[Fayola Maulida](https://www.instagram.com/faymaulidaa/)

Cases of sexual assault involve two parties - the perpetrator and the victim. However, victims of sexual assault are often targets of community exclusion. A negative attitude is associated with them, especially when the case is widely publicized. Words such as *nakal* (naughty) or *pembangkang* (disobedient) are often spread through word of mouth. As a result of these labels, victims face alienation and are further burdened. Most concerningly, their recovery slows down. So, what actions can we take to remove the stigma against victims of sexual assault? 

Supporting the recovery of victims and their independence despite negative public assumptions can be done through various actions. The fight for complete elimination of victim blaming and stigma is a process made up numerous steps. Fundamentally, however, one must begin with educating oneself. Be brave to ask questions. What is stigma? Why does stigma grow?

**What is stigma?**

Stigma is a negative characteristic that sticks to a person's perceived personality due to the influence of his environment. Goffman (1963) states "the stigma as a sign or a mark that designates the bearer as 'spoiled' and therefore as valued less than normal people". As a result of this stigma, various individals have emerged who claim that victims of sexual violence are “naughty” or “untrue” individuals. As a result, they blame victims for their trauma.

**Why does stigma grow?**

Stigma can grow in society due to a lack of understanding. Not everyone understands what sexual assault is, along with the effects it can have on victims. Unfortunately, mass media has a big role to play in the growth of stigma as well. Media coverage often includes negative images of victims, the presentation of myths, stereotypes about sexual violence that are not necessarily true, and many other things that give negative connotations to victims. According to Link and Phelan (2001), stigma grows out of four processes: (1) human difference labeling; (2) stereotyping these differences; (3) separate the labeled individual from "us"; and (4) loss of status and discriminatory treatment against those who are labeled.

**What is the effect of stigma? Why does stigma need to be eliminated?**

The presence of stigma can have several impacts on victims. In full, the results of Phulf's research (in Simanjuntak; 2005) found several impacts or consequences of stigma:


1. People who are stigmatized find it difficult to find help
2. Stigma makes it even more difficult to restore the life of a stigmatized individual, because stigma can cause erosion of individual self-confidence, thereby attracting individuals from society.
3. Stigma causes discrimination, so stigmatized individuals find it difficult to find accommodation and work.
4. Society can be harsher and less humane to stigmatized individuals.
5. The family of the stigmatized individual is humiliated and disturbed.

Furthermore, victims struggle with the thought that the stigma surrounding them defines them. This causes reluctance to report, follow up, or seek help for the sexual assault that they experienced. Fear of community alienation follows victims in their everyday lives, and dissuades many from seeking or receiving the help they sorely need. It’s important to note that delayed and slowed recovery for victims of sexual assault can cause serious physical and/or emotional wounds in the future. 

**What are the forms and components of stigma?**

The components of stigma are as follows:



1. Labeling: differentiating and labeling or naming based on the differences that the community members have.
2. Stereotype: A conception of the nature of a group based on subjective and imprecise prejudice.
3. Separation: The separation of "us" (as the party who does not have a stigma or giver of stigma) from "them" (the group that gets stigma).

**What can we do to stop the stigma around victims of sexual assault from spreading?**


- Learn and understand the different forms of sexual violence. From there, differentiate between myths and facts surrounding sexual assault. Know that you have an active role to play in correcting the stereotypes that are circulating. Then, you can spread it to the public (this means your friends, family, classmates, or more!) in order to grow awareness of related matters.
- Stigma arises from people's fear. Often, fear comes from confusing information in the public. The best step is not to spread unreputable news. This includes gossip, fake news, and speech that spreads hatred to victims. Verify all information you spread!
- Give the victim space to process and understand the incident. Don't press the victim with questions. Make sure that the victim knows that they are not alone and that it is not their fault.
- Avoid being judgmental and always offer support and assistance to victims of sexual violence.

After examining the varying traumatic influences that stigma has on victims, we have to take on a participative role to get rid of that stigma in our communities. To victims, remember that you can recover. We will always support you. It will take time, but it is not impossible. 

To all, remember that there is no room for cases of sexual assault in Indonesia!

Sumber:

[RR Dian Tristiana. 2017. Stigma.](http://rrdiantristiana-fkp.web.unair.ac.id/artikel_detail-170705-Mental%20health%20Nursing-STIGMA.html)
Merujuk kepada:
- Goffman E. 1963. Stigma: Notes on the management of spoiled identity. Englewood Cliffs, NJ: Prentice Hall.
- Link, B. G., & Phelan, J. C. 2010. Labeling and stigma. In T. L. Scheid & T. N. Brown (Eds.), A handbook for the study of mental health: Social contexts, theories, and systems (p. 571–587). Cambridge University Press
- Simanjuntak, W. 2005. Upaya Mengatasi Stigma Masyarakat pada Narapidana. Depok: Fakultas Psikologi UI.)

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Kasus kekerasan seksual melibatkan dua pihak, yaitu pelaku dan korban. Namun, korban kekerasan seksual seringkali menjadi sasaran pengucilan masyarakat. Cap negatif selalu disematkan pada dirinya. Apalagi, bila kasus tersebut sudah dikenal oleh khalayak ramai. Kata ‘nakal’ atau ‘pembangkang’ seringkali terucap dari mulut ke mulut. Padahal, dengan lekatnya label tersebut, korban jadi memiliki lebih banyak rasa takut. Tidak hanya beban, tetapi proses pemulihan pun menjadi lamban. Jadi sekarang, tindakan apa yang harus kita lakukan untuk menghapus stigma pada korban?

Dukungan kepada korban untuk pulih dan bangkit kembali dari kelamnya asumsi publik dapat direalisasikan melalui berbagai aksi. Perlawanan demi penghapusan tuntas stigma yang beredar terdiri atas berbagai langkah. Namun, gerakan mendasar yang mampu kita lakukan adalah edukasi diri. Hal ini dapat dimulai dari menjawab pertanyaan-pertanyaan mendasar seperti apa itu stigma? Mengapa stigma dapat tumbuh? 

**Apa itu stigma?**
Stigma merupakan ciri negatif yang menempel pada pribadi seseorang karena pengaruh lingkungannya. Goffman (1963) menyatakan “stigma as a sign or a mark that designates the bearer as ‘spoiled’ and therefore as valued less than normal people”. Hal tersebut berarti bahwa stigma adalah tanda atau ciri yang menandakan bahwa pemilik stigma membawa sesuatu yang buruk, maka dari itu dinilai lebih rendah dibandingkan dengan orang lainnya. Akibat dari stigma ini, timbullah berbagai pandangan yang menyatakan bahwa korban kekerasan seksual merupakan individu yang ‘nakal’ atau ‘tidak benar’. Serta, banyak juga yang menyalahkan korban atas kasus kekerasan seksual yang dialaminya.

**Mengapa stigma bisa tumbuh?**
Stigma dapat tumbuh pada masyarakat karena kurangnya pemahaman. Tidak semua orang mengerti apa itu kekerasan seksual dan dampak-dampak yang dapat terjadi pada korban. Peran media massa dalam pertumbuhan stigma ini juga memberikan dampak yang besar. Seperti gambaran negatif terhadap korban, disajikannya mitos-mitos, stereotip terhadap kekerasan seksual yang belum tentu benar adanya, dan banyak hal lain. Menurut Link and Phelan (2001), stigma tumbuh dari empat proses: (1) *pelabelan perbedaan manusia;* (2) *pemberian stereotip atas perbedaan tersebut;* (3) *memisahkan individu yang diberi label dari "kita";* dan (4) *hilangnya status dan perlakuan diskriminasi terhadap mereka yang diberi label*.

**Apa pengaruh dari stigma? Mengapa stigma perlu dimusnahkan?**
Kehadiran stigma dapat memberikan pengaruh kepada korban. Lengkapnya, pada hasil penelitian Phulf (dalam Simanjuntak; 2005) ditemukan ada beberapa dampak atau akibat dari stigma:
1. Orang yang terstigma sulit mencari bantuan
2. Stigma membuat semakin sulit memulihkan kehidupan individu yang terstigma, karena stigma dapat menyebabkan erosi kepercayaan diri (self-confidence) individu, sehingga tertariknya individu dari masyarakat.
3. Stigma menyebabkan diskriminasi, sehingga individu yang terstigma sulit mendapatkan akomodasi dan pekerjaan.
4. Masyarakat bisa lebih kasar dan kurang manusiawi pada individu yang terstigma.
5. Keluarga individu yang terstigma menjadi lebih terhina dan terganggu.

Pengaruh lebih lanjut terhadap korban dapat berupa timbulnya ketakutan atas melekatnya stigma-stigma tersebut. Sehingga, tumbuh rasa enggan untuk melapor, menindaklanjuti, atau mencari pertolongan atas perilaku kekerasan seksual yang korban alami. Kekhawatiran atas rekam jejak buruk korban di mata masyarakat bak momok yang terus mengikuti. Akibat dari tertundanya pemulihan pada korban kekerasan seksual dapat memberikan luka yang lebih gawat bagi masa depan mereka.

**Bagaimana bentuk dan komponen stigma?**
Komponen-komponen dari stigma adalah sebagai berikut:
1. **Labeling:** Pembedaan dan pemberian label atau penamaan berdasarkan perbedaan yang dimiliki anggota masyarakat tersebut. 
2. **Stereotype:** Konsepsi mengenai sifat suatu golongan berdasarkan prasangka yang subjektif dan tidak tepat.
3. **Separation:** Pemisahan “kita” (sebagai pihak yang tidak memiliki stigma atau pemberi stigma) dengan “mereka” (kelompok yang mendapatkan stigma).

**Apa upaya yang dapat kita lakukan demi menghentikan stigma ini?**
- Pelajari serta pahami bentuk-bentuk kekerasan seksual. Ulas juga mitos dan fakta, hingga kebenaran atas stigma dan stereotip yang beredar. Sebarkan juga kepada publik agar tumbuh kesadaran terhadap hal-hal terkait.
- Stigma muncul dari ketakutan masyarakat. Ketakutan kerap kali didapat dari informasi yang simpang siur di khalayak ramai. Langkah yang paling baik dilakukan adalah untuk tidak menyebarkan berita yang belum diketahui kebenarannya. Seperti gosip, kabar bohong, dan ujaran yang menyebarkan kebencian terlebih kepada korban.
- Beri korban ruang untuk memproses dan memahami kejadian. Jangan menekan korban dengan pertanyaan-pertanyaan. Pastikan bahwa korban tahu bahwa ia tidak sendirian dan ini bukan salahnya. 
- Hindari sikap menghakimi dan selalu tawarkan dukungan dan bantuan untuk korban kekerasan seksual.

Mengupas fakta bahwa terdapat berbagai pengaruh traumatis yang dapat mempengaruhi korban dikarenakan stigma yang melekat, mengharuskan kita untuk memusnahkan stigma tersebut dengan cepat. Bagi korban, ingat bahwa selalu ada kesempatan untuk pulih dan bangkit kembali. Memang perlu waktu, tetapi itu sama sekali bukanlah hal yang mustahil. Akhir kata, selalu ingat bahwa tidak ada lagi ruang yang tersisa bagi kasus kekerasan seksual di Indonesia!

Sumber:

[RR Dian Tristiana. 2017. Stigma.](http://rrdiantristiana-fkp.web.unair.ac.id/artikel_detail-170705-Mental%20health%20Nursing-STIGMA.html)
Merujuk kepada:
- Goffman E. 1963. Stigma: Notes on the management of spoiled identity. Englewood Cliffs, NJ: Prentice Hall.
- Link, B. G., & Phelan, J. C. 2010. Labeling and stigma. In T. L. Scheid & T. N. Brown (Eds.), A handbook for the study of mental health: Social contexts, theories, and systems (p. 571–587). Cambridge University Press
- Simanjuntak, W. 2005. Upaya Mengatasi Stigma Masyarakat pada Narapidana. Depok: Fakultas Psikologi UI.)

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Erasing the Stigma Surrounding Victims of Sexual Assault

Menghapus Stigma Korban Kekerasan Seksual

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Atika

Humanizing humans is extremely important, and that's exactly what Rumah Faye does. Thank you Rumah Faye!

Memanusiakan manusia itu penting, itu yang aku dapat di Rumah Faye, terima kasih Rumah Faye!

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Charista

Before I worked at Rumah Faye, I only felt sympathetic to the victims of trafficking I saw on TV. Now, I'm able to help them immediately at Rumah Faye. 

Sebelumnya saya hanya sedih melihat kasus anak di layar televisi, dan sekarang saya dapat menolong dan membantu mereka di Rumah Faye.

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Farisa

When I feel my life is overwhelmed with problems and then I see their problems, I feel that my problems don't even compare. I have to do something.

Disaat saya merasakan hidup ini berantakan dengan masalah-masalah di sekitar saya, tetapi saat saya mengetahui masalah mereka, saya masih merasa masalah saya tidak ada apa apa ya daripada masalah mereka.